Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

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It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

Hang on popcorn fans

The OP may very well be at work and unable to respond as yet.

Absolutely, she may also be busy packing his bags, or having a heated discussion with her husband, and then packing his bags

Seriousness aside, that photo of Johnnie Vegas in the bath is hilarious. Laughed myself to tears. I've got a funny feeling that without OP input, this thread is going to take on a life of it's own.

Although, the OP is under no obligation to provide details. I understand that.

I think if you were more specific re the bath picture we'd be able to judge better. For all we know he could be updating his Facebook with his face?!?!

I cannot honestly think of a single innocent reason to take a photo of oneself in the bath.

I did the other day to see if my face mask* was dry. Doubt this is his reason though.*

You’re going to have to explain what the picture was like. Upper body selfie in the bath could be innocent. Genitals on show in the bath is much less likely to be innocent.

A diagram of me taking a bath with my dog.

Does he maybe want to put a bath in the kitchen as the other photos were of kitchens and testing OP for. Reaction?

Was he in the bath section of the store?

Otherwise I’m stumped why he would take a selfie in the bath

Why would he even take a photo of himself in the bath if you two don’t send such pictures to each other?

Dodgy as fuck.

I'm surprised about the number of people who take selfies in the bath to check their face, eyebrows, face pack and so on. Does nobody use mirrors anymore?

I watched a clip of Greg Davies where he explained how he tried shaving his undercarriage and woke up with a terrible itching down below. Rather than get up he took a selfie to inspect the area.

Unfortunately, he accidentally showed it to a colleague when flicking through some holiday photos.
I think he passed it off as a picture of a trifle.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.buzzfeed.com/amphtml/lyapalater/the-top-30-ricky-gervais-bathtub-selfies

Or he is recreating Ricky Gervais' bath pictures? He doesn't do full body shots though fortunately

Is he on Twitter or Instagram?

The reason I ask is that those are both types of social media where I have been tagged in #SDS (Stop, Drop,Selfie) posts and everyone in the conversation drops photos of what they are doing in that moment. It's partly for fun and partly to avoid catfishing in groups where members may not have met in real life.

In those circumstances, I might consider dropping a very covered up bath selfie that would not be intended for any one individual.

Otherwise.... nope

Diagramfan, love your work!

Oh dear why does Ricky think anyone wants to see close ups of him gurning in the tub?

I've never heard of #StopDropSelfie. Is that popular among younger people? There must be a few situations when you can't take a selfie on request. Eg when driving, in a meeting, naked in the bath..

Although, the OP is under no obligation to provide details. I understand that

Absolutely, but it's utterly pointless to post a query without giving any information that could lead to a useful answer.

Does it look like a deliberate photo, like one he meant to take? I'm only asking because I've sometimes taken accidental photos of myself or my surroundings before unlocking my phone (it does that) and then found them later and thought "WTF is that?!" so if he'd been scrolling through other photos and had an accidental one, he COULD maybe have taken it and included it to you by accident.

ON the other hand - if it was a provocative pose, or a proper selfie with his face in and everything (or his dick), then I'd say it was pretty damn suspicious.

he took the photo recently... for someone else.... Sorry OP

Although, the OP is under no obligation to provide details. I understand that.

Well obviously not, but the post is pretty pointless if the OP doesn't give the information required to answer their questions

Sorry I don't know if I am being dim OP but can you clarify?

Is the photo a selfie of your DH in the bath? Is it your bath at home or an unknown bath/bathroom? Or is it a photo someone else took? Who?

If he has a history of inappropriate behaviour, surely a condition of you staying would be total transparency and access to any and all emails/phones/laptops?

Have you asked him why he had a photo of himself in the bath ? Tbh I can't think of any reason to take a photo

Anything else made you think 🤔

I think he passed it off as a picture of a trifle.. WTF?!

"Why are you photographing yourself in the bath?"

Would be my opening gambit.

@diagramfan - Genius!

I can't get past the initial reaction of, "There's nothing wrong with that picture". Did you not set a context for the question when he came home, OP? Like, "Ok there's nothing sexual about it - But why are you taking naked pics of yourself in the bath?!"

I agree with previous posters, ok so he's had time to better construct the lie - but still. You've been married for 2 sodding decades, you know him very well. You say you have a gut feeling which is (obviously) based on this knowledge. That would be enough for me with the previous form. I'm really sorry.

Have there been any recent times he's 'worked late'/been out with friends/etc. that now suddenly seem strange in hindsight? You can't predict the future but you can use hindsight to full advantage now. If it were me I'd be going back over any and every time he had extra commitments/reasons to be home late/out of the office/etc.

I hope you are ok OP x

I think your gut is right.