Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

[CoatsProtectionLeague]

It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

Hello coats just to say, another one here sending you good strength and good wishes.
I would imagine you put up with the rubbbish for years, or pretended you didn’t know what you really knew, because you were thinking of your children, how awful what you’re now going through would be, and what you’d invested so far.

He sounds utterly and completely repulsive. The sex worker stuff yet virtue signalling, the taking the kids to other town & getting his kicks in a certain way (I don’t want to repeat it all). You are soooo well rid.
Keep soldiering on.
FWIW, when I discovered the extent of exH’s duplicity, I never spoke to him ever again. No dc’s, obviously, but it definitely helped. I wouldn’t allow him the cathartic effect of an explanation.

Does anyone else think that putting this in Classics now, rather than in six months time, would be a very bad idea, and make far too easily traceable/identifying?

I think your restraint is amazing.
You’re obviously not posting a great deal for a very good reason, and the restraint is in your character, which is what is carrying you through.

Have been lying in bed not wanting to get up for the last 3 hours. Right. Need to get up and prep the faux brekkie.

Feeling numb more than anything. At least this too is another “last” I can check off the list.

Hope you all have a wonderful day if you choose to celebrate x

Coats, wouldn't it be wonderful if you put salt in his father's day coffee rather than sugar?

Hugs.

Has anyone else's highlighting of the OP posts feature stopped working - my nice green background seems to have gone for coats's posts.

Your strength and patience are inspiring Coats.

(I’d be dropping his bacon on the floor and pricking his yolks though.)

Coats/coats

OP I don't know if you realise this but your last updated are not coming up highlighted because of your name hanger from CoatsProtectionLeague to coatsProtectionLeague
I understand if this is something you've decided to do but thought I'd mention it just in case you don't want your posts going unnoticed.
Good luck for today

DoinItForTheKids - it's because coats hasnt correctly entered her username

Also, and I know you've got enough on your plate, this thread is almost full so you may want to set up a continuation thread.

You’re doing the breakfast for your children coats. You will get through it. Your character and humanity is so superior to his.

I think she may have slightly nc?

Thanks for pointing this out.

I logged out as I was upset the other day and thought it best I not add anything too revealing in anger- so I stepped away.

I didn’t remember the capital letter and namechanged by mistake when logging in again.

Sorry for any confusion.

Stay strong Coats, you have a lot to be proud of yourself X

Shockers you did make me laugh.

I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with me- it feels wrong to do anything nasty like that-despite the betrayals etc. This is very much the person I was years ago- I won’t tell you the things I did to spite a cheating boyfriend I had before DH but it always gives my girlfriends a treat when I recount my dastardly deeds.

I think maybe this is more of an indicaticator that anything that I’m just so numb when it comes to feeling anything for him now. Sad but I have to grasp the good in that and hope it will protect me and the coming avalanche of emotions that’ll come.

Coats - l have found that my friends and family are far more angry and bitter over what my STBXH has done then l am. I feel rather indifferent to it all.

I have got mad and lost my temper at him (over messenger so he cant twist my words) but that's usually due to his treatment of the children.

I was bothered at how little l felt about the end of my marriage and was worried l was going to eventually have a massive breakdown but a year on...I'm still doing fine! l did post on here about it. I'll see if l can find it

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/divorce_separation/3009245-Not-sure-I-am-reacting-normally

@CoatsProtectionLeague @coatsProtectionLeague please can you set up a new thread and link it here before this one fills up? X

That gut feeling is your angel trying to guide you. Listen well for it's always right.

Aliah talks without opening her teeth, it's strange.

My mum gave me a sanitary belt and some Dr White's. Talk about uncomfortable and bulky!

I'm so sorry, the wrong thread.

That’s bloody funny

I was incredibly calm and dignified when I threw my XH out for being a faithless twunt. I continued to be calm throughout his whining and refusing to sign the divorce papers because he didn't like the way it was written. I made sure friends knew they didn't have to pick sides.

I didn't badmouth the OW, I made it very clear that he was in the wrong. I kept the very rare rollercoaster moments to a tiny group of friends and family that I totally trusted.

It drove him round the fucking bend .

@CoatsProtectionLeague if you're interested in the thread it should have been on it's telly addicts the Doctors thread. They had a "period party" today.
I'll get me coat...

@toldmywrath as long as they didn't talk about period sex at your period party?

For anyone wondering: