Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

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It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

You are amazing.

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@coatsprotectionleague well done. You inspire me

You have the strength to get through this and I am in awe of your composure.

I know it's not easy. It's fucking hard, exhausting and bewildering. But one minute at a time, you are that bit closer to life without him.

Coats you should keep notes and write a manual to help others in a similar position. Proud of you x

Well done coats. I'm so sorry you're going through this. There will be better times.

If you want to know what he's up to, you can plant one of these [https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B014WS3HP0/ref=asc_df_B014WS3HP052932068/?tag=googshopuk-21&creative=22146&creativeASIN=B014WS3HP0&linkCode=df0&hvadid=231944677082&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16918176165593377790&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006861&hvtargid=pla-422075664845 recording pens] in his office area.

Jizz soaked knuckles Love it!

You are totally on it Coats. Attagirl.

You are doing amazing op

So what happened with the £600 in the end Coats?

Jizz soaked knuckles made me laugh a lot too 😂

Do you have a job OP?

@Lorddenning

Part time.
Dh earns x10 what I do.

How come?

Just read all this, I wish you all the best. Some men really think they can behave in such atrocious ways. Stick it to him good, you deserve better.

Piss stain 😂

Yup.

Cheering you on OP!! x x

So amazingly well orchestrated. You are doing great!

A poster on another thread advised me to read this thread as I may have to start laying some plans to exit from my unhappy marriage. I'm amazed at what you've achieved in just 2(?) weeks?!

A poster on another thread advised me to read this thread as I may have to start laying some plans to exit from my unhappy marriage. I'm amazed at what you've achieved in just 2(?) weeks?!

I'm sorry, I don't know why that posted twice

I hate lies but I think you need to start lying now if you want to keep this up for the next month.

Tell him you are sorry you have been a bit ‘off’ lately, but you have been feeling unwell (insert some female illness that he won’t ask about) then book an appointment to view kitchens.

Bring a folder with you with all your kitchen ideas and ham it up. You want a real family kitchen etc.

You need to throw him off the scent.

I am so so sorry you are having to deal with this awful situation, but the tide can only go out so far before it comes in again. Things will get better. Best wishes to you and your family x

@coats been reading loads recently about emotional intelligence and specifically emotional control. You have it in spades.
Obviously this is a very emotional time but you’ve been able to control those very strong emotions to plan long term. I wish I had that kind of emotional control! Hats off

Coats, there's lots we don't see but we know it must be happening, yet you are powering on to get things sorted for your kids and you.
What could be more admirable than that!

You have strength borne from maternal dedication & long term survival. You are right to play the long game. You already know rational conversation & reasoning is fruitless. So, I applaud you for seeing the sense in preparing as best you can for the inevitable.
I too kept my powder dry and even now after a few years of separation and divorce I haven't felt I needed to tell all the dirty secrets & betrayals I discovered that led to my ending the marriage. He revelled in being the wounded party & victim but that was on balance better than him finding out his sordid game was up & I was fearful on the response of a cornered wild animal. I know how hard it is to bottle the feelings but keeping the priority on the horizon and your child's wellbeing, than him & his fuckwittery. How he lives his life beyond now is not your business. How you live yours successfully is based on all your pragmatic actions now that minimise the shitstorm that is approaching.
You are resilient, your kids will learn great lessons from you. Keep on keeping on. Much love & admiration x

@CoatsProtectionLeague
I think I love you a little bit!

Just in your post, I thought I saw you write his money and he might stop access to it when you confront him and it just made my think how are you going to cope financially without "his money" later on