Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

[CoatsProtectionLeague]

It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

@cloudchaos read the full thread....

@dirtybadger I'm a slow typer.

I dont quite understand the woe is me? Did he tell Instagram world you broke up?

Nothing about a break up no.

I'm a slow typer. I should say so, if it's taken you 5 days worth of posts to compose that message!!

Coats he sounds like an attention seeking bellend! Keep your chin up, you're doing great gal!

MRIW

Yes you got that right.

Massive.

Cannot sleep.

Hoping you got a few hours in the end Coats. So sorry to hear he's being such an arse. Have you spoken to him? Is he all woe-is-me in person too or is this just needy social media attention seeking for an account you can't see?

Why haven’t you spoken to him yet?

Why haven’t you spoken to him yet?

Because OP's getting things sorted out first, and she's waiting for an investment due in a few weeks, to hit the bank account.

🧐

Thanks Geeky. I managed 3 hours then sat quietly contemplating stuff and planning. I’m being overly cautious and paranoid about leaving stuff not able to make lists just in case. He came home and was absolutely fine so I know that it’s all attention seeking bullshit. Also there seems to be so many team members leaving and team dos at the moment.
He really must feel on top of the world thinking I’m gobbling it all up when really I do want to laugh in his face and tell him he’s really not a prize, he’s the consolation and not even a good one.

I’m saving these all up until I can unleash. I will have a friend with me when I tell him. A male friend who H admires greatly.

I am a betting woman and I’d gladly wager he will be utterly devastated primarily because I’m going to tell him I know his whole game is up in front of him. A very astute MN told me that my H doesn’t think I am of any value to him-I agree!

He’s going to pay so let him work through the true value of his actions and shitty behaviour throughout our sham of a marriage.

I’ve thought about this very carefully. My Friend will guarantee me safety as H will not dare get angry and H will be gutted his nice guy image will be blown.

He deserves no less.

Sorry @Geeky

Yes you’re quite right I think his whole social media theme is for him padding out his story that I’m one of those joy-theif, lazy, frigid, pathetic wives- so he can reel another one in. It didn’t quite go to plan as he got busted and I was told about it and one of my close friends said she’s been blocked from his followers so he’s battening those hatches.

Be ready for some humdingers when you tell him.

Like : "All I was doing was having some harmless fun, whereas YOU are breaking up a family"

Or : "You'll regret this"

Or : "No other man will want you, with your post baby body and two kids"

Or : "I'm going to get full custody of the kids"

His initial reaction, will be to beg for another chance. When he sees that it's really over, he will turn. Be careful.

Also, be prepared for his family to be on his side, even if they learn what he's been doing. Blood is thicker than water, and all that. My ExH family never spoke to me again, this was after 20 years of being close. They stood by their brother/son, and I was painted as the bad guy, despite them knowing what he'd been up to.

Because it was me that broke up the family, you see. ExH chasing other women,didn't break up the family, it was me that did that.

I would laugh my socks off if my Ex SILS husbands cheated

You're amazing 💐

Husky I have known this man for 24 years- I may not have wanted to believe what a cheating skank he was but I know how he operates.

He will storm out when I confront him with my friend and deny,deny, deny.

Then he’ll cry for 2 weeks and send me song CDs and wedding photos. He’ll have a social media blackout and he will get his friends to contact me with their grave concerns about him going off the rails

When gets official paperwork from me he will turn into a monster- starting with the degrading comments. He doesn’t realise what I’ve read and I know what he is said about me.

I’m ready to tick these off my predict-a-cunt bingo board.

Coats - you have a strong game plan. Love it.

Sock it to him.

Do you have screenshots?

It would be amazing if, when he starts with the degrading comments, you could send him the screenshots and say 'you're repeating yoursef'. So at that moment he would realise just how much you actually knew all along...

Sorry. I have revenge fantasies...

Loving the predict a cunt bingo!
I did this with my ex and he didn’t disappoint! He did the ‘woe is me’ social media posts too. He refused to move out for months and when it finally happened he seriously suggested that we should spend the evening together talking about the ‘good times’ I told him in no uncertain times that my good times would only be starting when he was out of my life! I won’t pretend that it was easy but definitely worth it to be free of him.

predict a cunt bingo - absolutely Glorious, OP!

All the best to you and

Zaphod- I am now in possession of many screenshots yes and on closer inspection have seen a beauty from a woman who actually came and had a tour of my house. He was sniffing around her too. She was an old “friend” Lovely.

His indescretions really are the shit gift that keeps on giving- I have that gut feeling again telling me this is just the surface.

//sprays self with dettol\

My dcs are all out at friends today. I went to my unit. Feeling strangely hopeful.

I’ve even bought 3 boxes of the only thing I ever treat myself to that’s luxurious (foundation) I’ll have to keep a good game face when I have less. I will do it in style.

Thank you everyone.

I love that you have a Unit and are slowly protecting your things OP.. how dare he give a tour of your home to one of his 'friends' .. he's so out of order...

Yea Gemini and I played right into their hands because it wasn’t too long after his sexting episode where he was caught out so I was not welcoming to her and she knew it-i felt like my space was totally invaded and that it was a nasty thing for him to do.

I must’ve fit in perfectly to what character he been building about me. Who cares. Fuck them all!

It’s just occurred to me. He will be so bored when this is over. That’s such a good thought

Good call grabbing three lots of your foundation, stockpiling in that unit is genius!
He really is a cockwomble isn't he?
You are far too good for him and he will be left like a snivelling little rat when your plan unfolds.

He forgets.. you can read him like a bloody book... or rather a rather flimsy comic

I'm glad that painful as this truly is for you .. you are way ahead of him this time.. and he's going to get the shock of his sad miserable desperate life...

your right.. Fuck them ALL