Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

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It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

Zap
I’m 100% sure
I do all the finances and i know where every last penny is going. Im the one who gets notifications and can changes things.

christ.. you're a tower of strength Coats... credit to you

I’m not Gemini
I’ve cried a handful of times this morning and my youngest has come up to me with the hay fever tablets bless his heart. (No clue)

Inside I’m dying.

I have to just keep on swimming

I'm very relieved to hear it, Coats!

It was just a thought that struck me...

AAwww no lovely.... I'm so sorry to hear that... I don't think the daily facade you're having to maintain helps mind... it must be so very difficult and emotional draining.. he's such a vile man to have done this again to you and his family...

I'm sure it's horrible enduring what you're enduring, but I am still struck with admiration for your strength.

I'm a sober alcoholic and our mantra of "a day at a time" works for anything that's tough. It worked when my DC were small and my DH was dying.

Your doing better than you think coats, be proud your a strong woman.💐💐

Prawn -sounds like you are the strong one

Right now I’m going on get through the hour. X

echoing what everyone else has said op. you're an inspiration

I think you’re all I bit touched.
Don’t be ridiculous. At best a good actress-

I do think I’m a good mum right now. Holding it together for them.

Why is he at a hotel? Doesn't he know that your friends follow his Instagram?

I'm sorry, but I'm confused. Is your husband away with work? And why did your friends say sorry? Were his posts saying you'd split up?

At a hotel for a work thing.

He has so many followers he must have forgotten- his Instagram is locked and I am not on his list.

I do think I’m a good mum right now

Please don't think this, OP!

You are being a fantastic Mum by being brave enough to go through hell to give your children a good life free of lies and liars and fake happy families and illusion and delusion.

This is the toughest bit. Yes, of course you are crying at times. Who wouldn't be in your position? But you are still ultimately striving for a goal worth achieving and just because there will be some fall-out along the way, that does not mean it's not all going to be worth it.

You are obviously a conscientious, honest and responsible person. Your husband is the polar opposite of that. Please don't take on guilt that does not belong to you. The only person who should be feeling bad right now is your husband for being a terrible husband and a rotten father. But he won't be of course. He's too busy feeling sorry for himself.

We've all got your back, OP. You're doing great, you really are.

You are doing great OP just think how you will wipe that smirk off his face soon enough.

If I were you next time you cook for him and use a sauce give his portion a good dose of laxative.

We are all rooting for you. You are one smart cookie.

Fucking hell Coats to live through this and function means you’re Supermum!

But what was he saying for your friends to feel you needed sympathy?

Hang on in there coats your doing great .

What the hell is he jabbering on about on Insta that people have text you that ? God he's embarrassing isn't he !! Bet you can't wait till he's finally gone !

believe in yourself, Coats

Yes clumsy. So embarrassing.

Things along the lines of
Inspirational photo then total “woe is me” shpeil under it

My friend sent me a screen grab- and people were responding with great concern.

God- I’m cringing.

God sake , What is he thinking .
I feel for you , my ex was a total idiot , cheating was just one of the ways he was an idiot ( I found out when I was pregnant no less !)

You are doing great , but I know you are probably upset and unsure and nervous for the future but I promise you it's worth it in the end when you are free of all the bullshit !

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I do apologise, but in my earlier comment I thought you'd said "I don't think I'm a good mum". Sorry. You said you "do think" which of course is 100% correct. Oh dear, you must have wondered what I was babbling on about I was afraid you were blaming yourself or something. Hopefully, you understood what I meant. I hope so!

Eleanor I think anything said in here would just fly off my shoulders given the day I’ve had.

It’s fine
😊

How long must his arms be to take a full body naked shot in the bath?

And I'm joining the weird gang with A471. Ive also taken a selfie in the bath and not sent to anyone. I guess using it like a mirror to check if I look like I've a moustache, how sweaty I look, once as the cat joined me - that one did go to DH though, it was evidence that I never get a relaxing bath. Just of my face though, although I did once take a bump photo in the bath! I don't send these photos. I am a bit free and easy with random photos though and have around 31K photos apparently. Mostly of my son. Or my cats.

I don't hide passwords or have software wiping my computer. That could be installed by his work though if it's a work computer - presumably he doesn't have access to install software if they have any sort of decent IT policy? I've used the usual browser wiping tools in the past - again just to get rid of temp internet files, make space, not to be tracked by marketing ads etc.

I would just ask him why he took the photo. Why does no one just ask before jumping to all sorts of conclusions ?!

Thanks, Coats.

Yes, you are going through so much shit at the moment, I don't suppose my inane babblings would register.

You are going to walk away from all this smelling of roses. As for your husband, well he is nothing more than a boil on the anus of humanity...