Dh sent me a photo by mistake.

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It’s really rattled me.

He sent a bunch of photos that all made sense in relation to a big purchase we’re considering- this other photo was completely random.

I sent a text back saying- I’m quite sure you didn’t mean to send this photo to me.

When he came back from work he was very defensive and said there was nothing inappropriate/sexual about the photo and that I was being unreasonable.

I have a very strange gut instinct that I cannot shake off. We almost split up 5 years ago when he was trying to persue someone on social media/sexting. We got over that and decided our marriage was worth saving on the proviso he did it again he was out-instantly.

Something’s not right.

Where do I go from here experts?

Deffo try to find the certificate it will make a difference.

I have done this myself in the same situations you and would also recommend you try Hatton Garden.

Jewellery has several values: an amount for insurance, what a dealer will pay you for the item that it is, scrap value of the metals and stones, and finally what you can get for it in a private sale. The last one is very risky, you may get peanuts, and only to be resorted to if all else has failed, which it won't.

I took my Edwardian antique engagement ring to a jewellers - couldn't bear to look at it and needed the money.

It cost around £400 and he offered me £40.

My advice is to stick it on ebay. Someone might be looking for just that sort of thing!

Another vote for Hatton Garden

If you’re going to get such a small amount for it I wonder if you’d be better off taking the diamond out and flogging the metal and the diamond separately? (Just an idea, you’d need an expert opinion on this!)

Thank you will dig about and see if I can find the original paperwork from the jeweller who made it for me.

Just a thought re diamond certificate. When diamonds go through the certification process a microscopic serial number is engraved into them. An actual jeweller will be able to see it so you might be able to get a campy of the report www.gia.edu/gia-faq-analysis-grading-replace-lost-stolen-damaged-report. So sorry this is happening to you.

Copy not campy

I only have the original receipt which states the diamonds VSO? I think that’s what it’s called.
No certificate as such

Thank you for that input I won’t do anything rash.

Oh. My love. Strength to you.
I have nothing practical from a LTB point of view.
However - ring wise......unless you desperately want or need the cash, why not turn it into a 'his mistake was thinking I was stupider than I am, and he was cleverer than me - he's not clever and I am FAR from stupid' token of jewellery? Redesign the ring. Turn it into a pendant, or another ring, or a single earring? Then when you see it, it's a symbol of your lucky escape.
So sorry this is happening.

When diamonds go through the certification process a microscopic serial number is engraved into them

As an aside this is only true for some diamonds.

Just popping back in to say ‘Hi’ again. You’re no sap my love. You’re brave, strong & ‘onto it’.

Good luck finding an excellent Solicitor. Maybe try posting in Legal ‘Shit Hot Divorce Solicitor required in x area’.

@SeriousSass yes not all diamonds, only ones that have gone through the certification process to verify clarity, colour etc will have an engraving (microscopic) as the process is apparently quite costly and takes time. Ones that haven't been through the process will not.

Can you take it to the original jeweller you got it from?

minimalpatience You are incorrect. Not all certificated diamond are lazer etched. Some are and some aren’t.

I have certificated diamonds including larger high spec diamonds that don’t have lazer serial numbers. Including ones with GIA certificates.

I also have certificated diamonds with lazer etching.

@SeriousSass sue me.

While you snipe at each other
I think I might’ve blown it!

I lost it a bit a while ago.

So sorry you’re dealing with this OP

Oh no what Happened

Friends came over
Delighted to telll is they’re having a 20 year wedding renewal party and that we were invited.

Not to be outdone H suggested we think about doing it next year

How can he live with himself? I’ve been such an idiot. I reacted - they left.

Sorry about the break- am currently hiding out in the bathroom.

Just remember OP that this is HIS doing and not yours. Regardless of what happened tonight, this is HIS doing

The gut is so powerful and his reaction to your message was super defensive. Trust your gut. You know more than you think.

Sweetheart please look after yourself and stay as calm as possible

Oh honey. Take a few moments before you go back out there to deal with him. He'll probably try to minimise things.

How did u react

I see things moved on. You don't deserve this. He never deserved you. Ugh.