Should I let him back?

[SprayingMonsters]

Morning 👋🏼

DP and I have been on a break for near enough three months now, yesterday he sent me a text saying that he wants to come back home.

The reasons for the break were :

• He doesn’t help out with the children (I have three children under the age of 10)
• Not interested in doing things as a family
• He is unsupportive
• I don’t agree with that he does

Shall I let him back? I have been doing well by myself.

Thanks and please go easy on me

Mxyzptlk - He always says he is going to do things but he never ever does it, so I’m used to it but I generally thought that he would collect the kids from school today, he just makes me sick.

And yes I will have the clothes taken to my mums, and I will have the locks changed, I’m not having him letting himself in my home.

There is only so far that he can push me until I fall into depression like before. I’m also glad that my mum is coming over, she’s great I don’t know what I’d do without her.

And yes I will have the clothes taken to my mums, and I will have the locks changed, I’m not having him letting himself in my home

that's a great idea... good thinking... please don't fall into a depression.. don't let him win lovely... try to stay positive.. write things down you want to do over the weekends or summer holidays.. days here and there... read a book.. try to listen to calming stuff on youtube.. anything to help you stay upbeat..

You're taking control now, tho, instead of letting him control you with his weirdness.
Take as little notice of him as you can, while you sort things out for yourself and your kids.

Gemini69 - Thank you so much.
Mxyzptlk - He is really getting in my head, and the more I think of him the more angry I get, I just keep on crying, I cry as I type this, but I’m an emotional person anyway.

Stop crying sweetheart, he's not worth your years. You deserve so much better than him.

Or your tears.

I think crying helps to get it out of your system a bit and relive stress in your head.
So you cry away.
Although previous poster is right.
He doesn't deserve your tears.

Well done on taking back control.
Pack up all his shit and be done with him.

Get some love and support from your mum and visit your GP if you need to.

Stay strong - you are doing so well!

I feel so much better now my mum is here, at least now I can have some time for myself. My mum has told me that he called her yesterday and said that I have told him to go and he doesn’t know what he has done wrong, and I won’t talk to him etc etc I feel as if he is doing whatever he can to piss me off!

It makes me want to call his mother and tell her a few home truths about her son.

Don't get involved in the mess he's trying to create.
With your mum's support, you'll get through this. I hope she told him where to get off!

Trying to be tactful.

You are obviously in a bad place right now, and it's understandable. There's a lot going on and he really isn't helping. You are lashing out before thinking.

I suggest that you don't say anything, don't call anyone, don't do anything that you cannot easily take back without taking some time to think things over.

I suggest - and I may be wrong - that if you call his mum and go on a rant, and then he is really calm and reasonable to her and says that you're crazy, it may sound like he is right. I understand that you want to dish out some of the hurt that he has given you, but you have to be cold about this and protect yourself and your kids.

Don't let him wind you up, because you will be playing into his hands.

Meckity1 - He tells people that I am crazy, anyway.

Don't let him wind you up, because you will be playing into his hands.

What he says doesn't matter any more. Don't give him any opportunities to make you look bad.