What do you think when you hear someone is renewing their wedding vows?

[Mytwistedimagination]

Just that. Do you see it as a positive or negative? Do you assume there's a particular reason behind it?

(Reading that back, it sounds like journo fishing. It's not, believe me!)

My friend renewed her vows when she found religion. She wanted to be wed in the eyes of God. Everyone who knew her understood.

Unbelievably attention-seeking.

Is it not enough to have one speshul princess day?

I think it is lovely. So many nasty posters on here. Why does it have to be because of cheating or because they want to show off? Cheesy, tacky - such horrible comments

Me and DH have thought about doing it. Neither of us have cheated. We are very happy after almost 40 years and, if we did do it, it would just be us and immediate family. No showing off, wanting to be centre of attention etc

We would do it because when so many people divorce at the drop of a hat or stay together but no longer love each other we would like to re-affirm our love.

Just this week a friend expressed real surprise that we celebrate our anniversary every year. "But why would you bother" she said. Well maybe because that day is special to us and we are still very much in love?

If it was early in the marriage I'd wonder why, but if it was after a number of years, I wouldn't think anything at all. I've known a few people who've done it.

I quite understand you might want to re-affirm your love for each other, but why do you have to have an audience to do it?

If I ever wanted to do this (and I won't!) it would be a very private moment.

Schmaltzy, idealistic, harmless.

Yep, would assume cheating or other reason for having to wipe the slate clean and start again.

*The two couples I know who’ve renewed their vows did so because their original weddings were very small and rushed."

I don't understand this at all. So they didn't like the party they had when they got married, how does that mean their views are no longer valid?

Very self indulgent. Why on earth after years of marriage do you need an audience to reaffirm your love for each other.

I thought they only did this in the movies...,I guess not

Loads of people are still happily married after 40 years. Very very few renew their wedding vows. I’m sorry, but it is self indulgent attention seeking.
‘Ooh look at us still happily married after all these years, aren’t we great’ 🤮

I'd assume that they had some specific reason, but not that I knew what it was. The are all kinds of reasons why a couple might want to do it.

I would think either they wanted some attention, or an excuse for a party. My PIL recently had a 50th anniversary party, and then had their marriage blessed at their normal church service one Sunday. Renewing vows just seems so try hard.

I'd think

I'd think they're trying to bring the spark back to an unhappy marriage.

I'd assume they were celebrating a milestone anniversary and wanted to celebrate with friends. I'd think, how nice for them.

I'd think were the constant pda's on fb not enough for them?

My view would be based on the couple and how big a bash they were having and whether they were expecting presents or not.

So one couple it could be sweet and genuine, another couple would make me think one of them has cheated (again) and another would make me think they were grabby attention seekers.

I want to do it at a landmark anniversary because married life has been bumpy for us so far (but due to external factors, not issues with each other as people). It will literally just be DH and me though, and we won't tell anyone else so no "look at me" element.

But yes I'd otherwise assume health issues/cheating/not having the wedding you wanted originally.

Our friends did after she had fully recovered from a potentially fatal illness. Had close family only. Wonderful couple not at all attention seeking and last people on earth I would suspect of cheating.

Affairs

They want another 'big day'

Unless it's just two of them on their own and no fuss etc which is fair enough.

I would think it was lovely, esp If was on a significant wedding anniversary, like 25th. Reaffirming their vows, like a loving renewing of any contract.

I would assume it was a small, more intimate family only affair though. I would think bigger is a bit grabby.

It would never cross my mind that someone had been unfaithful. It would be the last thing I would do under those circumstances, to draw more attention to the relationship.

My first thought is always "How attention-seeking"

My brother and sister in law did this last year. My brother in law had been having no affair!

Ugh.

I'm going to go against the grain and say I think it's nice! If people have the spare money and want another nice day then let them! You don't have to be a part of it. Everyone is so bloody negative.