Lets have a bit of Summer Lovin' - Dating Thread 133!

[Jaxinthebox]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Haha no..... I quite like the comments from you and Bant. It's a wake up call some times to be told the honest perspective from a man

That good to know...... Don't be to despondent about the datin thing, we are not all bad 🤔

Well the rule is .... We cannot date the thread lol
But that's nice to hear. I think we all feel safe to speak on here and perhaps if we had that sense of security in RL it wouldn't be so bloody complicated

smeaton Imagine if one of us was near you...

I think I need to go on the smitten bench with Mr French - he is just too good to let get away. Bloody ridiculous really, its early days.

Ooh that's good Jax
We need to start having some summer loving as the thread says..... Even if it's just some holiday life us a bit

Good news Jax this dating malarkey has to work for some of us give us hope

I have spoken to Mr Cute about low amounts of texting and he said he isn't a big texter. Having spent more time with him I can see he isn't on his phone all the time and he gave me lots of attention. I could really start to like him, I say could as too early to know, think about 3 weeks.

I think I will just hang around near the bench for the moment. That's a more sensible option.

And Im away on holiday for ten days in a couple of weeks, lets see if it lasts through that too. Its all quite scary actually.

Thank you esk, Val and Tom.
Nice to hear things are going well for you Choc and Jax. I'd be a bit worried about the holiday too. Make sure you keep in touch with him if you can.
You did the chat go Daffo?

Is it just me - I can't stand being called hun/luv/darling by men I've not met (yet?) and it really puts me off

Can I jump in?? I don't exactly want to start dating again but would really love a good old fashioned snog and the work driver from last week said afterwards that he thought I was lovely and he wants to take me for lunch

My friend (wealthy professional) got a bit odd about that and said 'a driver'? in a sniffy tone of voice but he's extremely attractive, polite, not too talkative, a good driver and I like being taken for lunch! So I have to say a time this week. Although it might not be proper to snog him over lunch.

I'll catch up on other's stories shortly.

Just spent the weekend having date number 4 (with the guy who I didn't think I would get on with but turns out he was super hot and actually quite funny) - lunchdate and then date no.5 after a night out (me) headed to his afterwards.

We are meeting again next week, everything feels great and easy we are both so chilled out about everything. He is really keen to get together again again so i may have a toe hovering on the smitten bench?
I like this one he may be a keeper.

We clearly enjoy each other's company and with the no pressure let's see how this goes it's working out to be quite a good thing.

😊🌈 Happy Bank Holiday guys x

Val I've just had a message saying "lookin hot hun xx". Tempted to send a witty reply but I think it would go over his head.
And StinkyTrainers is back with a new user name - watch out!

Hugs to those that are having a tough time at the moment.

Good to hear that some are creeping towards the smitten bench. I live in hope that might be me one day. Right now, I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself seeing all the happy couples/families out having fun in the sun.

Anyone tried speed dating??
I've just realised I'm supposed to be going this week. I'm going alone as my friend has dropped out.
I think I can handle the 4 minute chat part but it looks like we're supposed to all socialise for 20mins in the middle and at the end. I'm worried I'm going to end up standing in the corner looking very uncomfortable on my own.

val the huns are everywhere! I've got one that keeps asking me 'why are you afraid hun?' when I say I'm not up for an LDR 🙄 Resisting the urge to say 'I'm not afraid, you're just a persistent twat'
runs speed dating? I would give it a go - nothing ventured etc

Can I join in please? Almost 8 years single after an amicable divorce... LOTS of OLD stories, some good some bad. Like some of you, I'm feeling a bit meh with the lack of irons, especially now the suns out.

My friends say I'm too picky... I'd say there's no such thing! Also struggle with OLD as I'm more attracted to charisma and intelligence than looks.... but struggled to find a combination of both, and when I do, they're not that into me!

Have one 'date' arranged for next week with an old iron, but it's more of a catch up as friends! Other than that, nothing. Hoping to spend some time updating my profile in the sun today.

Would love to try speed dating but never seen anywhere near me that does it!

Runs Too late I'm afraid - he messaged me yesterday - he hasn't said i'm hot, just that he wants to sniff my feet if smelly so I think you win! I'll bow out gracefully.
Sky it does just make them sound like twats - I have agreed to meet him on Wednesday - curiosity more than anything - he is very local so no effort needed. I have messaging another very local - no red flags at all so far, no huns, no innuendos - just really nice long chats - I think he is a bit shy - he's a widower - I'm away soon and am busy more or less until then but I might suggest we meet for a quick drink before I go

Hi All

Meet up with MrLegs last night - first date, total gentleman probably not my thing long term so initiated nooky, all good etc, stayed over.

But I haven't had ONS in 25 ish years. And after we had up in the morning, it was really awkward! He said I could stay for lunch if I wanted to and as this was not a would you like to say for lunch I read it that he would rather not. And so I left.

Has anyone got any good strategies for avoiding the do I go, do I stay bit?

Hi All,
Do you mind if I join you? I'm just at the stage of considering OLD for the first time, in my 40's. I've been single for a very long time and previous to that was in a long term relationship. The whole thing scares me a bit and I've no idea where to start. Can you help please?! I've don't actually think I've had a date this century 😂 So fear I may be more permanently seized up rather than rusty!!

Sorry, that was a bit of a broad question...I mean, which sites/apps would you recommend from experience? Has anyone else got into OLD after a long time of singledom? What's your story etc? Hope you don't mind me asking 😊

ignoring that's definitely good advice! Although he's so cocky that he'd probably see it as a challenge if I said to him "you need to do better next time"...!! Based on our chats these last few days he's completely up for it so I think it would be silly not to let him try again. As for the colleague part...well, we'll have the whole summer holidays to avoid each other and get over it (we work in a school!)

Finding most of us use POF. It's free and there's lots of choice but that means that you have to wade through a lot of idiots to find anyone decent. If you choose to use it, then make sure you adjust the settings so you can decide who can contact you.
Tinder is fun for the swiping but frustrating as often no-one replies to matches.
I'm using Match as I got a half price subscription. Traffic is slow but I've had a few dates from there. It's ok but I won't renew when it runs out.