Cancelled date 30 minutes before..feel like crying

[Poppa445]

Been texting for 3 weeks ...
Arranged to meet today for a drink at quarter 2.
I got the train to his city (50 min train)
Literally got off the train and he has text
“My dad has been taken in hospital,can we re arrange?”
£18 train and 50 min journey
Feel like crying

Can I just point out that he didn't make her do anything

He's a dick - lucky escape Op.

What did he say when you met? Don't message him, if he messages just text, "sorry, I don't seem to have your number - who is this?".

Chocolatwombat that 's unfair to the OP as she'd already ARRIVED when he announced that the date was dialled back so far it was a tag along while he shopped.
I wouldn't have bothered being squeezed in to that slot, I would have gone for a coffee and bought a book and a lipstick but a healthy self-esteem doesn't prevent others being flakey.

Sparkly the initial arrangement was that they were going for cocktails, the OP didn't tag along she was already there for the original arrangement.

He didn’t apologise or anything just said hello then said jd sports is this way .
If he had said before I left home this was his plan ...I wouldn’t have met him no way.
Only because I was in Newcastle and I thought well what do I have to loose?
I didn’t even find him attractive tbh

OLD is a nightmare... I've had LOADS of disastrous dates to the point where I nearly gave up lol.
One particular one was I met him in the town for what I thought was a nice meal. He met me in the car park and walked so fast and far ahead of me I almost lost him. He then took me to a grotty cafe. I cut it short and left. He then messaged me that night around midnight to say he'd had a great time and wanted to do it again! I told him in no uncertain terms that he was one of the worse dates I'd been on and not to contact me again. I've got loads tho haha

I’m all fairness I do have a low self esteem anyway.
Even a coffee and a quick chat would have been better.

Just chalk it done to experience. On to the next! Xx

I’m actually on the train flicking through tinder

Married for sure. I have absolutely no doubt of that, he used you to boost his ego. The guy is a wanker, next time you arrange a date (with anyone else, but not him) make it in your home town.

I’m sure you looked lovely op.

Next time, they come to you. Or mid way?

Good for you, you have a good look on tinder. Remember this seems awful now but in the not too distant future this will be a funny "horror date" story. Honestly, he's not even worth 10 seconds of your worry. He's clearly a muppet!x

I suspect married too. Maybe his wife was due to go out and then cancelled and then he trumped up a quick trip in to town to buy shoes to see what you were like and satisfy his curiosity.

Poppa - why dont you come join us on the OLD thread? Full of great advice and we are all in the same dating boat!

Good suggestion from @Jaxinthebox

Can you tag him in a FB post to say that you hope his dad is better soon and that his little girl likes her converse? That would get everything out in the open!

He hasn’t added me to Facebook or snapchat /actually no social media

It's definitely nothing to do with you not being attractive enough as he sent the message about his dad before you'd met. Clearly he was caught out by domestic arrangements (ie wife changing her plans) at his end. If he contacts you again reply with 'no thanks, don't need any more shoes or timewasters'.

Il have a look at the old thread
Thankyou

He's married, it has nothing to do with how attractive you are at all! He's married, couldn't come up with a proper excuse for his wife, couldn't manage to wrangle the whole evening off with the missus and showed himself up for what he is.

Thos has to go down as the worst date ever! At least you know not to waste anymore time on him OP!

I chatted online with someone one evening.... the following day when we messaged he was suddenly in Florida for 3 weeks. Odd not to mention it previously I thought. Anyway he sent me photos from his holiday and it was all sounding rather exciting. However I knew in the back of my mind that he might not be who he said he was and my intuition was proved right.
When we finally met upon his so called return home a few days later, he had been in hospital for a shoulder operation. For a man who had been on a boat on the Florida Keys he was neither tanned nor weathered. I suspect he had been in hospital the whole time and he even had the cheek to take a call whilst we were having coffee. That was the end of him.

Op, ditch Tinder, Grindr, and POF, the free ones that seem to attract the crap ones, go for something a bit more upmarket, like Elite singles or something like that, separates the wheat from the chaff.

Hi op follow Teesside here hope your ok sometimes we just got to put it down to experience and laugh about it.