Cancelled date 30 minutes before..feel like crying

[Poppa445]

Been texting for 3 weeks ...
Arranged to meet today for a drink at quarter 2.
I got the train to his city (50 min train)
Literally got off the train and he has text
“My dad has been taken in hospital,can we re arrange?”
£18 train and 50 min journey
Feel like crying

Op, you aound like you need men to think youre attractive to feel worthwhile? Like the men on the street who gave you attention. The new one messaging.
If you dont address issues you have, you'll more likely make poor choices with a partner.

Get the guy to come to you or at least meet half way between you

^^ yes

Meeting them at a mid-point is the fairest and means you've both made a financial commitment which is a good sign. If you have to chase them half way up the country, it's no skin off their nose if things don't work out and they feel like you've done all the hard work so it's an ego boost for the wrong reasons.

Do you think he thought I wasn’t attractive enough?

Huh? You need to be wondering why you didn't think he was wanker enough.

OP, why are you ignoring the fact that he was probably married and instead bleating that you don't feel attractive?

It's not you, it's him.

OP stop relying on men to make you feel good. Step away from chatting to randoms online and build some self esteem.

You’re better than this OP. You’ve had a lucky escape

OP you need to spend some time working on your self esteem love. Stop looking for these wanker men to make you feel ok about yourself.

He’s totally married, I bet. Lucky escape.

I’ve never dated anyone who’s treated me good..well actually I tell a lie one guy for the first 6 weeks then he turned into a lazy twat.
I do need to work on my self esteem but I deffo don’t need a man or anything as I’ve been single 2 years..tbh I was happier when I wasn’t dating as I didn’t have to handle being rejected.
Opens old wounds I think of never feeling good enough.

Yes, any Geordie with a three year old daughter with a new pair of pink converse and a shifty father? Anyone?

^^ this, I’m sure MN can hunt this creep down.

Oh, you're good enough. Just take no shit and the Ians of this world will give you a wide berth.

Op I've had worse dates, some OLD nightmares...

But don't lose hope.

2.5 years ago I started to chat with someone , didn't build my hopes up due to past experiences.

Then we met... He was lovely, had a nice meal, cinema, now we are very much in love and moving in together.

Keep looking! ( Fuck this loser off though!)

@Poppa. always confirms before boarding the train. I had a man cancelled last minute citing his adult son suddenly turns up to his house and he had to attend to him.

OLD is destroying men, they don't have any idea of how to treat women anymore.

This is the one time I wouldn't mind the Daily Flail picking up a tread and turning it into a story.

I'd do as a pp suggested, I'd get on fb and ask if the pink converse were well received and you won't bother with another 'date.' He needs called out! ( not sure if you can get on his fb!!)

Bin off this loser and hold out for someone that treats you decently. Immediately block whenever anyone starts to play games.