Oh fucking shit. My Dad has accidentally sent me an email revealing that he is paying for sex.

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My Dad has been married to my step-mum for quite a few years, she is lovely, I really like her. My Dad originally split from my Mum when I was tiny because he cheated on her.

I'm borrowing my dad's holiday home next week, so he has been forwarding me emails between himself and the hire car provider as he has organised it with a guy he knows. He has accidentally forwarded me a thread between himself and a 21 year old (vom. I'm 34) where they discuss meeting for sex and money being exchanged.

What in the name of holy fuck do I do now? I'm fucking shaking.

Yeah, isn't it. Also very easy to patronize and make fun of ppl for having a different viewpoint to yours, earth.
Therein lies the problem regarding these forums. It is only an idealistic viewpoint.
Which results in all these strangers jumping in with definitive advice regarding appropriate action, gleaned from a couple of paragraphs of information from a stranger with a problem.
If the real world reflected the insightful solutions proposed by the regulars on here, everytime you met an individual you had a problem with on the street you'd either beat them to death or hug them to death.
No middle ground.
Not complaining. It's all good fun...as long as no one takes the advice literally.

How about showing some respect for the person who has brought you up

That'd be the one who broke up her family when she was little due to his cheating ?

A lot of assumptions that he brought her up there?

I’d stay well out of it.

As I said before! The only thing that OP has seen is an email between her Df and a supposed prostitute.
She has no proof that he followed up on this email at all.
So he's being found guilty of something he may have not done.

Kung Fu

I didn't speak to my dad for 3 years when he left my mum and it emerged that he had had multiple affairs over the years starting when they got married and continuing through both her pregnancies.

Blood is thicker than water my arse. I don't get on with my mum paticularly but his behaviour was despicable, why the fuck should I turn a blind eye. And yes it would be the same (worse TBH) if he had been paying for sex. The idea that these sorts of things are none of the childrens business are nonsense. Men have really done a number on us when a large chunk of society apparently believes that anything a man does is private - affairs, paying for sex etc - even within his own family. Yeah sod that.

larrygrylls I agree with this and would keep out, but my knowledge about such things has diminished how I feel about that parent. I don't interfere, but I know they are just a rubbish person.

"The new age where no one has a right to privacy and anyone is entitled to police anyone else's relationship according to their own 'morality' has well and truly arrived. "

It is her father! This isn't curtain twitching about people 12 doors down the road who she's never spoken to.

Since when do things that go on within families around relationships have nothing to do with other family members? So, weddings are bang out of order then are they

Nobody deserves privacy to cheat on their partner and put their health at risk. Privacy went out of the window... No new age aboyt it!

About it*

^totally this

And, as to the excuse about her stepmother having the right to be protected from STIs, the father would probably have practised safe sex, so the probability of the stepmother getting infected is well and truly minimal. This is just judgment dressed up as concern, to make the person saying it feel better about themselves

Excuse? You disgust me. You have absolutely no idea whether he’s using condoms or not - bareback is very common. And condoms aren’t 100% anyway.

The long term consequences of untreated STIs such as HPV, chlamydia, gonorrhoea, syphillis are horrendous.

Clearly you give not one single shit about this woman’s health.

Respect, eh? I respect no man who uses prostitutes - scum of the earth.

The punters not the prostitutes - I have much sympathy with the latter.

the father would probably have practised safe sex

Just the sort of sex partner I would want

NOT

Any update OP?

Hope you are okay OP xxxx

I haven't read the whole thread but I would call him out on it.