Solicitors letter to DH mistress in affair

[Bub3017]

Hi,

Can I send a letter from my solicitor to the other party in my partners affair; seeking compensation or an apology due to being behind in uni work, having my anxiety medication increased, failing as a person and every other emotional distress I have been under from finding out my partner had an emotional affair that later led to sex?

And yes I am being genuine!!

No, you can sue someone for your partner cheating on you.

She hasn’t cheated on you, your partner has

You can name her as co respondent in the divorce, but sadly i think you should be directing your vitriol to your husband.

I very much doubt it. I'm not a solicitor but I cannot imagine that you would be entitled to compensation for 'failing as a person' because you have discovered your DH had an affair.

Whilst sorry for you, I would probably be focused on seeing a solicitor about divorcing him, rather than demanding money or an apology from the OW. How on earth could it possibly be enforced?

She's maybe NOT sorry.

Your solicitor cold do it and charge you for it.

Don’t think it would be inforceable in any way.

I’m sure you can, but you have no legal recourse to either and it would probably be utterly futile. I’m sorry you’re struggling, but she didn’t betray you, your partner did. This isn’t on her, he made the choice.

You can if you want, but personally I’d advise against it. Let it go and move on.

I’d be surprised if sending the letter made you feel any better. And you’d be unlikely to get an apology, certainly no compensation.

The OW is only partly to blame, your partner is the one who lied and cheated. You’re well rid of him. I understand that you want somewhere to direct your anger. Not sure if this is the best way.

She is not responsible for your health and well being or your financial status.

He is.

no solicitor should send it you have no legal case

You can send all kinds of letters, sure. She can just ignore it though, she has not been the one who broke any promises.

Partner, not husband?

I know it must be awful finding out you’ve been cheated on but don’t do this....

It will make you look bonkers and she’ll shiw it to her friends and laugh about you.

If a solicitor agrees to this then you need to change solicitors.

There are many unscrupulous solicitors who will happily take your cash writing pointless letters that will get you no-where. Well not nowhere as you will be poorer...that would be the only outcome.

I assume you are not married as you refer to a partner, if so, count your blessings.

Remember, being happy is the best revenge. Focus on what you can do to make things better for yourself.

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Why are you blaming her. You’re in a relationship with him

He's my partner not my husband, I don't want money from her I doubt she'd have any. I just want her to feel humiliated and disgusted by her actions. I am trying to make it work with him, which is so bloody hard, and I am also at counselling to try and deal with everything. He has had to live with the fallout of everything. She knew he had a partner and kids so knew exactly what she was at. She lives a couple of hundred miles away from me otherwise I would have knocked at her door and had it out with her, which would have been closure for me but I'm not getting any closure at present and don't know how to redirect my disgust and anger for her. I don't hate her I actually pity her and her sad pathetic life.

God no, have some self respect.

SHE is not to blame, HE is.

I suspect if she received that she'd laugh her knickers off and show everyone.

I can't see her showing it to her friends, how many women would openly admit to their mates that they had an affair with a practically married man? Especially in a small Irish Catholic town like hers, where gossip is everything.

Legally probably not given that it's not technically adultery if you're not married.

What does he say about the affair?

@Lovely
Harsh but true