Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Date 2 with MrFrench tomorrow. We are going for lunch. He gives me butterflies and I find it hard to think of things to talk about with him sometimes.

Hope it goes well Jax. I think the more you see someone the easier it gets. Date 1 with Mr Academic was ok, but a few silences. Date 2 and we didn't stop talking.

we can chit chat lots on WA - and on our date we had a few silences where my mind went blank... but it was ok.

Further update. mr Snog birthday today and I said I would make dinner, but he was seeing his grown up kids who were coming round... anyway he just called and they are are not staying long so we are having dinner together.

I need to make some sort of decision soon I know. But only DTD with Mr snog, nobody else!

Feel I should confess, despite my reservations, things have started up again with Mr Local!
Have had a difficult time with family recently and whilst I haven't seen him in a month he has been the right amount of helpful/ supporting via phone (offered to come over too but I didn't want to mess him about so told him to go find someone else)
Anyway, long story short, met him at a race at weekend, then met up later on and looks like its back on. Can't remember all my reservations now (Bant can possibly remind me!) but he has a lot of good points and I was really happy to see him again.
Just going to see what happens as maybe I am used to Drama and overlooked / under appreciated his unassuming nice qualities which I now respect him for.
Not sure why I am sharing as it makes me look like an indecisive idiot, but, for the moment I'm a happy one :)

ignoring sounds promising enjoy!

Mr french is awol. He hasnt eceb listened to my message today. Channelling my inner "zero fucks to give" mantra. It's not working. I'm gonna back right off again Andre reasses if it's for me right now. I feel I want a bit more but I'm not chasing it.

I've got a friend of a friend chasing me. He does nothing for me. He's alright, but he's a bit weedy.

Mr first tinder date is leaving really long voice messages and is after my opinion on husband work Situation. He said starting to get a bit needy.

I'm too nice I think, arggghhg! Feeling a bit frazzled with it all. Time for a break?

Good luck with working out the predictive text fails.

pudding I just thought you were drinking

ignoring I wont judge anyone for indecisive - in the same boat myself.

pudding time for you to reassess your dating scenario? I love a bit of predictive texting, always makes for a laugh. Although I am a fan of autocorrect when having a drink...

Date with Mr French today, he gives me butterflies.

Sorry but just curious what exactly is a potato head???

jax there are a lot of mr frenchs around! Hope you have a nice time. I'll fall for my mr french I feel I let myself. Holding back!

I've downloaded tinder Again. If it doesnt feel like 90s r&b i don't want it......Is my new mantra!

Gah.... if I let my myself.

Pendeen many mature men lose their hair and can get the potato head look. Sadly some think sitting a shiny sports car makes them God's gift and they chase women half their age, whilst being judgmental on women the same age as them who are likely to challenge their intelligence.

Date with Mr Cute tonight.
When we're together it's fun and we can talk for hours, but it all feels a bit shallow. He is well-educated, a good listener and physically things are fine, I just feel like image and an "I'm intelligent" persona are really important to him. On a few occasions he has made jokes that are a put down to me, but then acted as though he's just being silly. I can't work out if I'm being sensitive or not!

I am still seeing MrG. We are on about 6th date but I am still holding back and trying to figure out why. I think I am concerned that he has not fully got over his divorce. Me and exh are fully divorced, he lives with his new partner. We have been split up for longer than MrG and his ex missus.

MrG has been divorced for 2-3 years but they have never fully finalised everything for one reason or another and she seems to be firmly in control. Having not shown any interest in him since she left, the minute he has a gf, suddenly she is leaving messages saying she misses him and asking him how he is doing. He has been honest and told me and how bemused he is as she hasn't sent him a message like that since she walked out on him - he says he is totally over her but it bothers me.

I can see what she is doing. The minute he has gone and got himself happy for the first time, she has got all wistful. It's selfish but fgs! I think if I'm going to have a relationship with him, I need him to deal with her but don't want to sound too prescriptive and put him off talking to me about it.

Sigh.

Don't think I have it in me to do internet dating another time! Seeing him either tonight or tomorrow and need to have a think as to how to address it.

Seeing Mr Tinder on Sunday, he was meant to be away for the weekend but has decided he would rather see me (no pressure from me at all as I could happily spend the weekend on my own). The situation with the dog seems to be sorted. He keeps sending me really soppy messages, I think he’s more into me than I am him, I’m treading very carefully and holding back.

OMG lovely date with MrFrench - he makes me all mooshy and stuff. WTF am I going to do? 2 dates with him and I like him, he seems to like me too, but he works long hours, rarely has the weekend off and thats about the only things I dont like. Although that said, he could get a Friday or Saturday off if we worked things in advance. (Head Chef)

Mrsnog was NEVER supposed to be a 'thing'

Help me oh wise ones.

So I have had two texts ignored this afternoon . He doesnt text often but I know he is off work today and normally replies quicker than this once he has read them... which he has bloody whatsapp

I am getting my nails done after work and hoping that will prove a good distraction so I don't end up texting again!

he has just messaged me, long conversation had but asking me to exclusively date him, he wants me - not in a love bomb way though. He is so nice and sweet. God sake, 2 dates and Im heading for the smitten bench.

minnie be cool, go do something that means you cant use your phone for a while, after you have your nails done.

Thanks jax will do. By the time I've finished with my nails and gone the long way home due to road closures I'll be almost ready for bed!

Jax I’m having similar issues with work hours but I think if you both want it to work you can work around it. Mr Tinder works nights and he spends most of Saturday recovering from his Friday night shift, I get to see him for a few hours on Sunday whilst my dc’s are at their dads. I know that if we were to end up in a longtearm thing he probably would change his job so I’m trying not to stress about it. He tries hard to free up time to see me at the moment. Just see how things go with Mr French, their are advantages of dating a chef

Minnie I wouldn’t bother messaging him again, make him do the running, if you don’t hear from him then he’s not worth it.

Minnie this sounds like a change from him, but it could just be that he's more relaxed and confident about you and doesn't feel the need to message more urgently. Did you ask open questions?

Mr Cute has really surprised me. Was lovely on our date, talked about how a recent situation has made him insecure. I think I may have misread him before and I'm more interested in him again. Date 6 I think, I'm not jumping on the smitten bench as I'm bloody cynical holding back.

love I think he is worth it. We have talked about everything today and tonight. I know he is after an exec chef job - which would give him more free time. I have never dated a French person before, its all new to me.

love . I think he might just be worth the effort - we have chatted today/tonight about everything and anything.

jax i had a summer fling with a Frenchie and it was the most liberating and fun period of my life!

i have an affinity for France, the lifestyle of French people and the accent 😩 so i’m sure that helped!