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Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!

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VetOnCall · 02/04/2018 22:56

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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esk1mo · 03/04/2018 21:41

user onwards and upwards, there are sooo many men out there for you to date (literally millions!) so dont get caught up on one date.

pudding i did think MrItalian sounded a bit lovebombey, he seemed totally into you without anything to back it! at least you had a good date with him though.

silver id up your standards a little (in the nicest way possible!!) , i wouldnt consider either of those as first date options!

ive moved to whatsapp with MrChatty he keeps saying he cant believe how much we
have in common. dont know if i proper fancy him, we have tentative plans to watch football and have a night out, which could be fun. i could probably have a drunken snog with him but i dunno about sex.

MrF is coming round on thursday. i have to admit i get little butterflies when his name pops up on my phone Blush even though we’re just FWB, its nice to have exclusivity without the pressure of a full relationship.

MrOtherGuyOnTinder he’s looking for FWB, hes cute but i dont think i could sleep with him. hes skinny and i like my men with muscles.

esk1mo · 03/04/2018 21:43

just realised i say we’re exclusive while talking about other irons Blush what i mean is neither of us have slept with anyone else, and i dont think i would/could without him knowing.

TomHardysBitontheside · 03/04/2018 21:43

user exactly the same thing happened to me two weeks ago. It went really well (I thought), he asked for a second date, texted me the next day to see how I was then nothing!

I got back on the horse and am now chatting to multiple people, a couple of whom want to meet.

Don't text him, just move on. He's really not worth the effort.

TomHardysBitontheside · 03/04/2018 21:49

This is very exciting esk so much choice!!

I'm chatting to Mr Writer - really long and interesting messages. We hope to meet up in a couple of weeks, he's away and I'm away too with work. He's cute and is after similar things to me - nothing too serious.

Mr Punk I has asked me to a gig. I don't fancy him but he's really sweet so likely to be just a friend.

Then I have Mr Non-committal. No plans at all to meet but again really long and interesting messages.

It's very time consuming this messaging lark!

Skyrabbit · 03/04/2018 22:15

After all my whingeing, and downness (sorry!) I've got a date!
New iron, MrRugby. Ex semi pro rugby player, younger than me, very tall 😀, looks kind in his photos, and seems to be intelligent and funny.
There's gotta be a catch!

pudding21 · 03/04/2018 22:17

esk1mo so did o which is why I held back afternoon our date. I Was waitONG to see where things went and not expecting Anything.

Mr french is not messaging hardly at all and hasn't confirmed if he's free. I know he's on early shifts and goes to the gym every Day and surfs so he doesn't have his phone with him much (can't use it at work) but it says dropped off noticeably. Sitting on my hands trying not to message as I fear I've scared him off by my assertiveness. I hope not but if so his loss ;)

Popcornandjam · 03/04/2018 22:18

Thanks for the new thread vet 🙂

So odd when it happens that way user - why do they suggest a second date then disappear? As tom said just get back on that horse!

Yay for a couple of interesting irons there tom!

3rd date with Mr Plane went well - he's funny, kind, interesting and asks a fair share of questions which makes a nice change. 4th date planned for the weekend.

pudding21 · 03/04/2018 22:18

Predictive text fails.

Skyrabbit he sounds hot!!

Tom id go for the writer as I like chatting ;)!

CarrotyO · 03/04/2018 22:59

What do you think of someone who signs off with "Night gorgeous"? The first time he did it I very nearly unmatched him (tinder) but then I thought - oh he's only trying to be nice. I haven't met him so he doesn't really know if I'm gorgeous or not. It's our 2nd evening of chatting on Tinder. Date is arranged for a week on Sunday as I am busy this weekend.

SpringtimeSun · 03/04/2018 23:17

Another one to form a queue for......

Bring on the Spring Flings. It's Dating Thread 132!
Popcornandjam · 03/04/2018 23:21

So your 'young son' deserves to grow up with a cheater and a lier for a role model, does he? 😐

Do you think women actually reply to these gems?

Popcornandjam · 03/04/2018 23:23

Wouldn't really bother me, carrot, though I think I might be in the minority. If he matched you on Tinder presumably he thinks you are gorgeous, so why not?

CarrotyO · 03/04/2018 23:24

That is shocking. So self-entitled!

CarrotyO · 03/04/2018 23:25

I may have a tendency to write people off for spurious reasons. Trying to get a grip on it.

esk1mo · 03/04/2018 23:28

tom how do you manage to keep the conversation going in the weeks before first meeting? Shock id run out of things to say.
you’re lucky if it flows naturally.

hmph pudding thats rubbish. ive noticed sometimes that men retreat for a few days before coming back all energised and
chatty, its like they get stuck in their own head sometimes.

carotty i think its just the way some men speak, it wouldnt particularly bother me. one of my irons puts “ x “ after every whatsapp message which i find funny, but i cant judge him purely from that! im sure i do or say things that people arent used to. see how he is in person Smile

Jellyheadbang · 03/04/2018 23:43

SpringtimeSun for fuck sakes! I wonder how many people go for that kind of shit?
My young son doesn’t deserve it, wtf?!
An old school mate is making a career of cheating, his social media is so locked down it looks as tho he’s single, he made a big play for me online and i thought we were both divorced with young kids from the way he was chatting to me.
I was tempted to meet him then I asked him about his divorce, when, how kids took it etc then he replied ‘I’m not divorced’ , ‘separated?’ says I.
‘No, we’re still together, I just have a lot of affairs, I call it hiding in plain sight ‘...
God knows if she knows, obviously we don’t chat anymore but I often wonder how many men are carrying on like that?
I don’t know his wife and no links to her on his doc media (lives in a different town to me) but I saw them one day in my worn, high street Saturday shopping, looking very much like a family 😕

SpringtimeSun · 03/04/2018 23:52

Jelly yup. Men with profiles like that should get shot down in flames by every woman who reads it. But they don't and some poor sucker will go for it.
It's disgusting

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VetOnCall · 04/04/2018 00:01

'Kinell Spring what a prince amongst men. The sheer entitlement! He obviously thinks he's being all noble by continuing to grace his wife and kid with his presence too. Ugh. I hope he and Mr Ultimate Mistress both get cockrot.

Carroty you're not the only one. The list of reasons why I haven't swiped on or replied to messages from certain men is embarrassingly long. I get a lot of 'Hi gorgeous' 'xxxx' type messages - I don't think this says anything about me, I imagine they do it to everyone. A surprising number of blokes are all about the xxx's. I don't reciprocate.

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esk1mo · 04/04/2018 02:29

just came across someone on tinder whose only picture was a close up of their chest hair .. Hmm

TomHardysBitontheside · 04/04/2018 06:19

popcorn yay for date 4!!

esk we just seem to have so much to say. He's sent me a link to the stories he's published online so we discuss those. Also currently discussing education, genealogy and fave TV shows. I really like that, I find it more stimulating than the usual generic one liners.

Costaricachica · 04/04/2018 07:03

Just checking in on the new thread. My FWB has reappeared again after a few weeks. Im in 2 minds whether to just have some more fun with him or tell him to do one now as it's always on his terms.

Lots of people recommending POF, almost tempted to give it a try. Just scared of being 'seen' on there, same as Tinder. The joys of being from a small town!

esk1mo - your 'x' man isn't from the South East is he?!

ThirdTimeUnlucky · 04/04/2018 07:17

Smeaton -good try!
I've been a bit quiet as I'm a tad embarrassed to say that I'm still seeing MrWow. We discussed the PoF profile, which he claimed to still be on for the laughs. I can't pin him down, all he say's is "let's go with the flow".
On the other hand he wants exclusivity. Can't make him out at all!
So, have started seeing other irons, so I don't get too caught up with MrWow.
I seem to have a habit of having old irons reconnecting with me. I'd like to think it was because I'm so good, lol. Has anyone else had this and what do you think/what do you do?

VixenSixen · 04/04/2018 07:47

Smeaton - ha! What a way to start the day.... keep them coming!

ThirdTime: I've had a few old irons reconnect, in fact MrBytheSea contacted me yesterday, ex FWB, contacted me yesterday after 2 weeks of zero contact with zero tact and looking for a hookup on his way back from London. I told him I was busy - I mean, at least make an effort to engage me in conversation- lol. I am done with him anyway.

esk1mo · 04/04/2018 07:50

costa nope! scotland Grin

he must have some relatives down there xx