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Totally infatuated with man I occasionally work with

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Userwho · 31/03/2018 21:40

I've recently met a man through work. I'd seen pics before we met and colleagues had talked very positively about him and I'd had a feeling he would be my kind of guy. The minute I met him I was completely blown away. He is the kind of man I have fantasised about meeting since I was about 16!
Anyway we swapped numbers for work purposes and exchanged a couple of work related texts. He then text me at 10pm one night complimenting my profile pic and again the next night with quite a flirty but brief message. I replied in a jokey way but had nothing back except a laughing emoji Hmm
I literally cannot get him out of my head. I really want to ask him out but I have no real idea that he'd say yes and I have to work with him quite a bit this month. I'd also be absolutely terrified of actually going out with him if he did say yes. He just seems so far out my league, without meaning to put myself down!
Any ideas on what to do or not to do, or how to get him out my head?!

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Userwho · 03/04/2018 19:53

There were definitely long lingering gazes and there was lots of giggling and joking when he came to help me do something that neither of us could do. He stuck to my side pretty much the whole day and would seek me out whenever one of us came in the room or joined the group. Positive right?

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MrsJoshDun · 03/04/2018 20:02

Sounds really promising.

Belliniteeny · 03/04/2018 20:16

This is great, I love a good romance and anticipation story. Don't rush it. Enjoy this stage!

HipsterAssassin · 03/04/2018 20:16

Ooh that sounds gooood Smile how did his single-ness come to light?

Was he super confident today or did he seem a bit awkward at times?

If he was 100% confident I would worry he is a player as he seems quite charismatic.

I would definitely sit tight until the work project is over though...... but..... squee! Enjoy!

DrMorbius · 03/04/2018 20:26

Just read a post on Mansnet about a guy who really likes a woman he occasionally works with. They have been flirting on text. The thing is he is too scared to ask her out. Any advice?

ItLooksABitOff · 03/04/2018 20:31

SQUEEE!

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Userwho · 03/04/2018 20:39

He asked about my kids' dad then volunteered the information. He wasn't quite as confident as the last time we met and doesn't seem like a player, although I'm not 100% sure I trust my own judgment. I really like the way he talks to other people too - friendly and genuine.

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NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 03/04/2018 20:45

Ooh sounds very promising

BackAwayFatty · 03/04/2018 20:54

Aww fingers crossed! Sounds so exciting!

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Userwho · 03/04/2018 21:10

I'm going to have to go to bed early so the morning will come quicker and I can stop obsessing Blush

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Oddcat · 03/04/2018 22:51

Can't wait for an update and invitation to the wedding

GammaDelta · 03/04/2018 23:17

Shamelessly place marking.... this thread has me intersted after the GEG thread..

CantRememberHoliday · 03/04/2018 23:31

Good luck, OP

LoveforPGTipsMonkey · 03/04/2018 23:34

don't do anything else OP - it's all going well, I still maintain he'll ask you out himself very soon (especialy now that he asked whether you are single).

bluebell34567 · 04/04/2018 00:14

agree with LoveforPGTipsMonkey.

debbs77 · 04/04/2018 08:34

Ooh this all sounds very exciting!!!

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Userwho · 04/04/2018 13:27

He's really busy today and there is way less chance to flirt Sad
I'm going to have to bite the bullet and ask him out aren't I.

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Bluebelle38 · 04/04/2018 14:30

Yes, do it xx 😉

MrsJoshDun · 04/04/2018 14:31

I now think do it after how he was with you yesterday.

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Userwho · 04/04/2018 14:45

We're here til 9pm, still really busy. If no opportunity for him to approach me comes up I'm going to face my fears and go for it at the end of the evening.

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RawhideRingpiece · 04/04/2018 15:51

Oh just ask him!

DaisyGiveMeYourAnswerDoo · 04/04/2018 17:42

Do it GrinGrin

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Userwho · 04/04/2018 19:05

One of his colleagues has just mentioned he has a girlfriend who lives abroad.
So either he's a lying twat or....he's a lying twat Angry

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DerelictWreck · 04/04/2018 19:13

Or the colleague has old info?

buckeejit · 04/04/2018 20:03

Boo! Say to him 'I was going to ask if you wanted to go bungee jumping with me next week but then Morag in accounts said you had a girlfriend that lives abroad-too bad.....'

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