You should get in there first and tell him that you have a date and he needs to have DS2 tonight
He’s meeting her at 8.30. He told me at approximately 7.30. I was so tempted to say that I actually had plans but I’m really tired and that would mean I’d have to go out (rather than putting my PJs on and watching tv in bed).
He was hilariously vague about ‘meeting someone’ and he’s been hiding his phone screen in case I catch a glimpse of his messages. I have no idea why though, since we are not in a relationship and I really do not care if he shags someone else. In fact, I’d encourage anything that gets him out of the house!
How he gets to the airport is irrelevant really - he'll have to make these grown up decisions all on his own in future so he'd beat start practicing
Well yes. That was my thoughts on the matter. I genuinely don’t care how he gets to the airport (and I’m pretty confident that, as a man in his 30s who can manage to do a professional job, he is capable of working out that the train is how you get from here to the airport). He has to get the train back anyway because DS2 and I are leaving 2 days before he is, so he may as well get some practise on the way there.
Even so, I still haven’t managed to resolve the visiting my mum thing because he’s stonewalling. I’d just go but I still have to negotiate with him about DS2 until we have sorted out residency properly. Tomorrow I’m going to force him to have the conversation. Or, if he won’t talk, then I’m going to tell him that the boys would like to visit their grandmother and it’s unfair of him to prevent that. He has always made it very difficult for me to see my mum (and he behaves very antisocially on the rare occasions she does see us). Not feeling something approaching panic every time my mum expresses an interest in visiting because I’ll have to run it by him is yet another wonderful thing I can put on my ‘why not being with ex is the Best Thing Ever’ list.