Little Friend??

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Been seeing someone for 3 months, things are going well. See eachother once/twice a week, speak every day, speak on the phone. He’s met my sister (not planned, we bumped into her on a date) and she loved him. We haven’t had a talk about ‘us’ yet but feels like it’s all heading in the right direction. Until today when he referred to me as his little friend in a conversation.

Now I can’t decide if he was being affectionate/jokey OR he does not see me as anything as other then a mate who he goes out with, has a good time then has sex with. What do people think?

This sounds very exhausting, Aren't the first few months meant to be fun? Does yours still say your single or have you changed it to in a relationship??

I don’t have my status on there. I barely use facebook.

I think I’m going step back from this thread for a bit. I really appreciate everyone’s input and it has made me feel better but now I feel like I’m feeding my anxiety. No one is perfect and I’m just on edge waiting for him to mess up and reading into every single thing and people saying he might not be single and things is just making it worse. I can’t do this. I’m just exhausted by it all.

Thanks again everyone, you’ve really helped me but I need to take a break now

I think that's probably a good idea. Good luck to you. It sounds like you've got a good man there who likes you. Remember that and enjoy it.x

I think that's a good idea as honestly it sounds your obsessing over every little thing and I don't think this thread is helping. If he's says single then he probably just hasn't updated it and you both haven't established it's a relationship yet so I'm not surprised.

Good idea op,give yourself a break....really hope all works out. Take care of yourself X

Just speak to him OP. Take your power back.

Your anxiety is being increased by not being open and honest. It’s perfectly ok and usual to have a chat about this stuff a few months in (or before).

You’ve been lied to so much in previous relationships, your fears are completely understandable. I’m sure all is well but ask him.

Otherwise you cannot continue honestly and fully with getting to know each other because you are hiding your needs. You are allowed to act on your needs.