Little Friend??

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Been seeing someone for 3 months, things are going well. See eachother once/twice a week, speak every day, speak on the phone. He’s met my sister (not planned, we bumped into her on a date) and she loved him. We haven’t had a talk about ‘us’ yet but feels like it’s all heading in the right direction. Until today when he referred to me as his little friend in a conversation.

Now I can’t decide if he was being affectionate/jokey OR he does not see me as anything as other then a mate who he goes out with, has a good time then has sex with. What do people think?

Ahhhh he seems mega cute 😍 I didnt know what to call dh at three months. At a party I jokingky introduced to him as an escort as I didn't want to call him my boyfriend prematurely...he was not happy with me 😒

Maybe this is a sign it's time to have the talk? After 3 months and if all is going well, id say it's time. No one can judge you on you wanting to know.

Does he seem committed? Does he talk about his future plans with you? Like where he wants to be in 5 years time? Is he affectionate when you are out and about? Like putting his arm round you or holding your hand? Does he cuddle you after sex?

Lots of questions there I know but these are typical things to look for if a guy really does want a relationship with you.

I'd just ask, it's been 3 months now not 3 weeks and you need to know where you stand. I think something like that would throw me too. Good luck :-)

At 5’ then I’d say it was affectionate

I don't know how to feel about it as I can see why it bothers you but at the same time I think he meant it in a nice way rather than bad, I guess it's probably because it's highlighting that you two are technically friends as your not in a relationship yet. The early days or dating aren't easy!

He's just being affectionate. It's better than 'babe' or 'sweetie'!

He’s properly affectionate when we are together, nothing at all to indicate there’s anything other then like there.

I replied saying ‘ hey. im home now ready to pour a very large glass of wine. Haha friends? Thanks. Thought we be at least best friends by now. Hope works going ok for you, speak to you when you finish xxxxxxxxxxxxx’

You're over-thinking it - that's a sweet thing to call you.

Haha I like your reply ! :) I think he was being nice and not friend zoning you

Now my anxiety (I suffer really badly) is saying he’s going think I’m an idiot referring to the friend thing in my reply. I think he was just being affectionate :(

3 months is probably about right for the chat anyway :) , how did you meet each other ?

He sounds lovely by the way and I think you styled it out well ! Don't panic xxx

Aww that's a good reply op :-) let us know what he says. If anything, his comment may of been a good thing as a little help to get you to the next step x

yeah was a cute message - definitely not friend zoning you was being affectionate and your response was fine, don't worry!

That's a good reply! I would have said 'what does little friend mean?' And left it. You need to know - perhaps he's testing the waters? Take back your power

That's totally affectionate. Chill!

It sounds like he was trying to be affectionate,but also is he maybe testing the waters?

Take a deep breath and stop stressing. What does it matter what he calls you, as long as you are enjoying spending time together and he makes you smile then just enjoy the moment. 👍

Thank you everyone for the reassurance and not telling me I’m crazy. I do overthink EVERYTHING. I’ve been given beta blockers by my doctor and start counselling on Monday so I’m hoping that will help this anxiety but I agree he is lovely :)
Hopefully he was testing the waters and my reply might open up a conversation. I am going to talk to him when I see him at the weekend about ‘us’ nothing dramatic but someone asked for my number (for literally the second time in my entire life!!) in a bar at the weekend and I said no I am seeing someone and I realised how much I like him and want us to be a couple.

I'd pay no heed to the friend thing. That was one wee word (meant endearingly) in amongst a lot of other stuff that suggests he is keen. I'd actually hazard very keen.

He sounds incredibly warm and very forthcoming with his Xs. Believe me if he "wasn't that into you" he's doing a really shit job. A guy not that interested is unlikely to text that way.

You sound like you get on so well and get on great. Enjoy, have another glass of wine and stop worrying!

Well....I've discovered I can't edit MN posts...^^^ "get on well, get on great".

I speak words goodly.

What do you call each other op

My boyfriend of 18months calls me his ‘little friend’ (I’m 5ft 8 so not exactly little!)
It comes from his mum. She didn’t know what to refer to me as when we first started getting a bit more serious. She asked him “Are you still seeing your little friend?”
It stuck. I totally take it as a term on endearment

I liked your reply!

He even put it in a frame for me with our favourite pics together (vom!)

Aww captain that’s sweet.

I really hope he is keen, I really do like him!

He finishes work about 10 tonight so I’ll let you know if he says anything about the friend thing!