Little Friend??

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Been seeing someone for 3 months, things are going well. See eachother once/twice a week, speak every day, speak on the phone. He’s met my sister (not planned, we bumped into her on a date) and she loved him. We haven’t had a talk about ‘us’ yet but feels like it’s all heading in the right direction. Until today when he referred to me as his little friend in a conversation.

Now I can’t decide if he was being affectionate/jokey OR he does not see me as anything as other then a mate who he goes out with, has a good time then has sex with. What do people think?

Hmmm, maybe 'little friend' is a way of saying your not his friend but not his girlfriend yet?!

Can you say the exact conversation? It doesn't sound good to me though but too little to go on.

ARE you short?

Was he holding a big gun when he said it?

"Say hello to my little friend"

Are you sure he wasn't referring to his, erm, manhood? Lots of men refer to them by strange nicknames?

My little friend is a term of endearment I'd say.

This reminds me of the"Little tshirt" thread

The exact text was
‘Hey you, hope works going ok. I’m just on my break so I’ll give you a ring later my little friend xxxxxxxxxxxx’

Aghhh I don’t know what to think. I feel a bit gutted.

And yes I am 5foot so very short!

It just sounds kind of affectionate to me

Did he ring??

Is he French, or does he speak French? Petite amie (or petit ami if talking about a man) is French for girlfriend/boyfriend and literally translated it means 'little friend' - maybe he is being cute/shy and trying to be subtle when he doesn't feel he can use the English word yet?

No he’s still at work!

Definitely not french

My friends are saying ‘oh wow he’s definitely not into you, can’t believe he’s called you friend’. BUT (and maybe I’m trying to look for excuses), we do call eachother little names, it’s not like he referred to me as a mate and we haven’t had the talk yet so I suppose technically we are friends

Is English his first language? Maybe he's trying to say something else??

Sounds very sweet
You are most definitely over thinking it.

Ask him not to call you "little" if you don't like it. He might not have realised how it sounded.

He’s as English as they come. I am leaning now towards him trying to be affectionate but getting it completely and utterly wrong. But maybe I’m completely deluded

It’s not the little that bothers me. It’s the friend part that stung

He's a man, they're crap with subtleties, he was just trying to be sweet! Stop overthinking. Or start calling him mate and see what his reaction is.

Ask him! Reply to the text and say little is fine but friend?!

I think he meant it as a term of endearment. I used to get called missy by an ex, made me melt every time for some strange reason. Perhaps time for "the chat"?

I think he was flirting and you are just friends at this stage I guess? Maybe he wants you to pick up on the "friend" bit so you can talk about the next step?

I think you're overthinking it. I don't think he meant it in the way you are taking it