Dating thread 130: dates with more issues than Vogue - mad March hares every one of 'em

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Congrats Margo that's great news.

Love he does sound like he's being a bit petulant about a simple misunderstanding and that's not attractive. I don't have kids but I realise that people who do generally can't magic babysitters out of thin air.

Margo nothing really at the moment. Still talking to Mr DiamondMine, he's back from his business trip tomorrow. He seems great in all respects but he lives about a 90 minute drive away and I think I'd be setting myself up for a disappointment if we meet as I really don't think I'll be his type.

Jax, I got some great profile advice from the posters on here.

On POF you can turn on a requirement to have a minimum initial message length, so you don't get all the "Hiya" stuff. I didn't ever pay to have "Meet Me". If anyone is properly interested, they'll get in touch.

Jax I've messaged you.

I've got another new one on Match. But his profile doesn't say much. We've exchanged quite a few funny messages but now I'm getting fed up that he won't answer a straight question - although he did say he was happy to meet for coffee.

So I replied to a message, standard stuff, seems ok, we will see.
I shall call him Mr Restaurant. Said he is a restaurant manager, knowing my luck it will be in a fast food place, not that there is anything wrong with that, its just not what Id like while trying to get back in shape and I need someone solvent. God that sounds shallow.

Ladies and gents: some inspiration for you

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I am so using one of these.

The old iron has now messaged me, I remember what I called him now (theres been so many), Mr Mountain. So his messaged asking how I am, I’m trying very hard to ignore and not reply, he wasn’t the most reliable of people, a bit flakey and then he vanished. A bit cheeky messaging asking how I am after no contact for 6 months +.

love is this what happens? Thing is, do you want to see him or not? Did you have a date?

pudding Im going to read your link in a mo.

So, today I have had a few conversations but quite boring ones. I dont want dick pics or anything, but a bit of something other than, hi, what do you do, what do you like in a guy, are you busy etc. I want someone to take the lead, ask me for a coffee, tell me something amusing. IS this it? Am I destined to have to have a million 'hi how are you' before I find someone?

Am I destined to have to have a million 'hi how are you' before I find someone?

Yes, probably, not gonna lie to you.

sorry.

Pudding those links are gold, I loved the one from the other day. This one is my life...

love I remember him from before, he was uber-flaky wasn't he?

vet I sent that to my friend. And the one about the dog pushing your hand away so pretended was reaching for the remote. My life also ;)

I like the one about nudes and titanic, funny as.

Just hit the gym and now need to walk the dog. Then I have 46 minutes more or less to get ready for Mr Italian. he has been very charming and sweet and quite funny. I am a bit nervous but what the hell: YOLO!

Jax this seems to be what happens (or it does to me) we dated a few times over a month, he was a bit flakey at times, one minute really keen and then not so, the dates we had were nice and the sex was ok but then he just stopped messaging and I wasn’t going to chase so he vanished, this was 6 months ago. He’s not the first to suddenly reappear and expect me to respond.

I now have 3 people wanting dates, none of them are making me that excited.

Vet Sorry if this comes across rude but I hope you aren't thinking like Mr Medic that you aren't good enough for Mr DM.

Mr Red is out. Mr TGTBT (Too Good To Be True) is currently in. Watch this space. He won't last :D

I'm going to rename him Mr Bowtie having just seen a new pic. We'll see. He ticks enough boxes from an intelligence and wit point of view. That's an important part of the game for me.

Right, am I being too choosy? I’m meeting Mr TV next week. Lots of whatsapping and he seems really nice. I’ve also been whatsapping Mr Magic for a few weeks. We’ve not met up yet. He messaged today (first time in a week) asking to meet on Saturday. It’s quite short notice as I’d planned to do something with my 14 year old. I had already suggested meeting one weekday afternoon for coffee (he works shifts) and have suggested it again. He hasn’t replied yet. But I don’t know if I’m that keen. His messages don’t engage me. I wonder if it’s really worth it?

I prefer to meet someone who really interests me rather than someone who seems nice but not that engaging. Or do I give him a chance?

I caved in and replied to Mr Mountain, just told him I’m fine. He messaged back saying he’s sorry for being a twat and that he was struggling with working such long hours, he now has a new job and is less stressed, he has asked if I would consider meeting up again. I have told him that I am unsure, told him I enjoyed time we spent together but don’t like being messed around.

Question: previously I have told men that I am older by 5 years than my profile states BEFORE I have met them . It doesn't seem to have bothered them as such as I don't look my age or even the age on the profile and they usually comment favourably. ( I don't think the disappearing guy was to do with my age ) . Have a date tomorrow night but haven't told him yet . Is this being dishonest ?

Love was he not the one who was very 'vanilla'? You weren't very sure on him even before he disappeared.

I'm not sure it ever works out when they reappear. He should have explained that at the time like a grown up. I'm willing to bet he'd do it again after he's got over this bout of horniness.

love I think you’re right to be cautious. It’s bery easy to make up excuses for flaky behaviour, but I always think these behaviours are ingrained in people. You just have to give it time. Someone who excites you will come along.

Bloody why have you rounded it down?

I think it's a common bugbear on this thread, irons lying about their age (and their height) for me it's not whatever their real age is, It's getting off to a dishonest start from the very first moment.

Ok thanks - point taken .

springtime because it takes me into another "decade" as it were ....

Started new thread as this one almost done...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3195360-Break-Out-The-Red-Flag-Bunting-Its-Dating-Thread-131

Ok I have fessed up !