I'm 35 today I've realised my marriage is over

[mammymammyIRL]

Dh emotionally abuses me.
He shouted at me & shoved me in front of our four year old ds for the last time on Sunday morning.
I don't want my 7 year old dd growing up seeing her parents not getting along
I don't want them to think Daddy's getting cross with Mammy is normal or ok

I can't do the rest of my life living like this.

He took letter when he got up for work because it's not on countertop anymore. Haven't heard anything from him at all. When I went to DC's room this morning, ds wasn't in his bed & I panicked a bit, found him in h's bed, guess he tried my door and it was locked as it's always me he comes to

I wouldn't expect to hear anything though he'd save it for face to face

Have you got a plan for tonight if he kicks off mammy. Keys, money, an emergency bag for you all, somewhere to go?

Yes important documents & spare key of car at work. Spare clothes for dc in boot of my car & quite a few safe houses to go to. It'll be out to car & ring guards if anything happens for sure now as I've protection order & he'll be arrested.

I'm really worried about you Op - you're doing amazingly well but what if he properly flips?

Thanks Hannah all I can do is hope for best really

Stay safe @mammy; you sound like a very strong woman; and you will achieve the wonderful new life you and DC deserve.

Thanks that hopefully sooner rather than later.

Thinking of you @mammymammyIRL

YY to warning the au pair

Keep your phone on you at all times too x

I'm home, he left almost as soon as I came in, Choosing to ignore me gone to shed with his phone & coffee, it’s like old times 😜

Just do your best to mind yourself now too.

Will do apile thanks

Glad to hear that mammy. How is it now? You're making such progress xx

Thinking about you.

I hope he has the sense to reel his neck in and keep it there.

@be I went to bed before he came home so I avoided the inevitable sniping

@mrs I hope so for mine and the children's sake

Meeting guard tonight to get leaflets about being a victim of crime and for an update on story so far

Hope your meeting goes well tonight @mammynowanauntyIRL.

He's signed an adult caution admitting he assaulted me

@mammymammyIRL that's good news.
Please do stay vigilant. This is still a risky time. X

Thanks think

That's great mammy. I agree don't let your guard down yet

I won't still pursuing the protection order & this will only help as he's admitted assaulting me

Good. You are doing great.

How long 'till you're away from him?

Good that he signed a caution admitting assault - that's a proper line in the sand. Keep safe xx