Partners twitter

[TheRoadToEverywhere]

Fairly new-ish relationship, around 4 months. It's got quite intense, quite quickly and is going well.
Just had a random glance through his Twitter (out of boredom, nothing stalky) and have discovered he follows a large number of porn stars, glamour models, girls/women who have accounts to basically pose with nothing on.

It has really, really bothered me. I know he is entitled to follow whoever he wants to but its left me feeling absolutely shit. I didn't think he was this type of man.
I look absolutely nothing like the women in these profiles, and now feel horribly inadequate.
For some reason it feels different to me to porn, as that's an outlet and and means to an end.

Is this my problem? Do I need to get over it?
I have crap self esteem anyway, this really isn't helping.

[bitzy12]

Also op said he follows 2000 accounts....only 30 of those are models. If all he followed were these women, I would defo say end it as that's weird. But he folllows literally thousands of people so it's probably not a big deal to him.

I mean a like a page on Facebook of sexy fireman (always had a thing for fireman) dh likes kelly Brooks page....should we get divorced?

[CarefullyDrawnMap]

I follow news feeds and people who are interesting and people who I find witty. If I got to know someone and really liked them, and thought I related well to them as a person and liked their humour and their views, I would be disappointed and upset to find they followed a load of sordid crap on their twitter feed. I'd feel the same about it as I would if I saw them following racists or someone condoning beating up kittens. That seems, I dunno, uncontroversial.

[CarefullyDrawnMap]

Sorry, that was a reply to BodakBlue

[LizzieSiddal]

bitzy Don’t you understand the difference between “extremely graphic porn” and a sexy fireman”?

[DatingLife]

I mean a like a page on Facebook of sexy fireman (always had a thing for fireman) dh likes kelly Brooks page....should we get divorced?

Well, each to their own. But I suspect, the way OP writes, she's not the type following random men dressed as firemen to express her sexuality just sayin'. Seriously, they're porn stars, not KelllyIdiotBrooks. Some people are very naieve, and led a sheltered life.

[BodakBlue]

I'd feel the same about it as I would if I saw them following racists or someone condoning beating up kittens. That seems, I dunno, uncontroversial.

In what way is looking at pornography and glamour models (two things that are completely legal by the way) the same as being a racist or an animal abuser?

[RidingWindhorses]

Do you automatically unfollow every single attractive guy you follow as soon as you get in a relationship? Who actually cares, they're models. I personally follow a lot of glamour models and various attractive women as well as men on instagram because I enjoy looking at their pictures and admiring their bodies, there is nothing necessarily sexual about it.

I don't follow glamour models because I'm not a shallow, immature twat, it's genuinely never occurred to me. I follow academics, intellectuals, journalists, political figures etc. I couldn't even tell you what many of them look like, that's not why I'm following them.

There's no-one on my twitter feed that I would have to remove out of respect for a partner.

[bitzy12]

She literally just said extremely graphic porn while I was writing my message so obviously I wouldn't of seen it @LizzieSiddal

I still stand by everything I've said. I feel sorry for the guy

[CarefullyDrawnMap]

I said I would feel the same way about someone looking at it, not that they are the same thing. It would put me off the person looking at it.

[princesssparkle1]

Much of it is extremely graphic porn.

I do not remember seeing that clarification from the outset,

[RidingWindhorses]

She said 'a large number of porn stars' in her OP. Did you think they were posting Disney and Sylvanian Families pics?

[BodakBlue]

I don't follow glamour models because I'm not a shallow, immature twat, it's genuinely never occurred to me. I follow academics, intellectuals, journalists, political figures etc

You're making assumptions about women which in itself is sexist, maybe you should try to work on yourselves and your self esteem to eliminate the daemons you have, its unrealistic to say that admiring attractive people says anything about anyone - we are all guilty of vanity and being shallow but this seems more like guilt for not possessing the qualities these women have which you seem to think diminishes your own attractiveness.

[CarefullyDrawnMap]

[CarefullyDrawnMap]

Yes. We are afraid of their heat.

[RidingWindhorses]

Not making any assumptions about women. You said you follow models etc to admire their bodies ergo they're posting pics of themselves. If a glamour model has something interesting to say rather than posting pics, that's completely different.

You're simply trying to deflect in a rather lame way. The rest of your post is such baloney I can't be arsed.

[DatingLife]

more

[DatingLife]

at the baloney

[RidingWindhorses]

@CarefullyDrawnMap

[BodakBlue]

You said you follow models etc to admire their bodies ergo they're posting pics of themselves. If a glamour model has something interesting to say rather than posting pics, that's completely different

You seem to think that because these women are attractive and post selfies they have nothing interesting to say. Where do you get that assumption from exactly? Evidently if you don't follow these women you have no idea what they are posting. Twitter is, after all, a platform that focuses on words. You can post half/fully naked selfies AND also tweet about interesting topics of conversation. Kim Kardashian does so daily.

[TheRoadToEverywhere]

And double penetration.

Lots of insightful discussions to be had around that.

[bitzy12]

Op I really think if you had said from the start it was extremely graphic porn then possibly more of us would of been on your side.....there's a massive difference in what I would class as extremely graphic porn and models.

I just thinking reading various threads over the last couple of months, the way some men get portrayed on here is awful. It's always the same posters defending the women without even looking at it from a mans perspective. Doesn't matter what the situation, he's in the wrong.

Won't surprise me if one day we are reading posts: 'omg dh had the last of the milk on his cereal....selfish bastard, what shall I do?'

Followed with a load of 'LTB' replies.....

I'm over and out and this thread but hope it turns out ok for you op, whatever happens

[saltandvinegarcrisps1]

FFS OP. come on - you know what you need to do. Every post of yours is revealing more dickish behaviour. Dump and move on. Or don't. And then post again in 2 years saying "my DP is a duck and I hate him"

[saltandvinegarcrisps1]

Dick not duck obvs. Reading on the bus!

[TheRoadToEverywhere]

Thank you for your well wishes, genuinely x

But I didn't think I'd need to clarify they weren't the kind of porn stars that post knitting tutorials.

[saltandvinegarcrisps1]

The road. 😂