Other woman

[Lucky6266]

Please don't judge me but I'm involved with a man who has a wife and kids abroad.
Wife and kids know about us and gave given blessing as it's allowed in thier culture. We all talk on Skype. My guy says he loves me alot.
He is very committed to his family sends money to them etc but also appears committed to me. Am I doing wrong pls.
I know I'm probably gonna be slated.

Your all happy so what is your problem?
Why do you care what a bunch of randomers on the Internet think ?

You want to see him so I don't understand what your issue is, you know he is married and is wife is aware of you.

Okay

Lucky, what do you want?

Would you like to be married?
Would you like to be with somebody whose situation is less complicated?
Tune out the he said she said you're wrong she's wrong you're bad he's bad she's bad white noise and think about what you want out of life.

Every single crappy McRelationship just erodes your self-worth more. Makes you accept more crap and expect less the next McRelationship......... endless merrigo round descending in to torture unless you put a stop to it yourself.

All I know is that I love being with him

Married or not I enjoy time with him. He treats me really well I know some would argue that it's a act but my instinct tells me not

What would he think if his wife, or you, decided to have a sexual relationship outside your relationship with him?

His family have made it easy for us by been affable about it all so I keep loving him.
I know people are going to take the piss and say how romantic.

I've no idea but that is something I would never do.

We think alot of each other and his wife knows he will always support her and I have accepted that.

Ask him.

I actually know someone who was in a relationship just like this. It all worked hunky dory for a while. Until he had enough money and the visas went through with his family. They then came over here. It took some time, she was with him a long while. Even had kids. He said the same thing, didn’t want his wife over here blah, blah. Guess what happened to the woman in your shoes? Oh and the children.

She was left on the shelf. He won’t see the children not of the marriage. If he’s from the culture I’m thinking, he will never, ever divorce his wife. You will never be free to have a life with this man. Why you’re in this situation is mind boggling. It will not end well. I’ve seen it first hand, literally exactly this situation. Sorry.

I would never ask such a question. Also I know the score with his wife and I would never expect him to divorce it wouldn't be right.

Okay maybe I'm stupid but I feel this man different.
He tells me he wants to be with me that he is happy with me but must always support his family and will want to visit them and he said that also I can come.
She has said I am welcome

Maybe I should shut up about it now anyway.

I think let the thread die because I'm gonna carry on in my sweet way anyway.
Sorry but I take on board the comments anyway it's just that I know I can't give it up.

I will have to try and live with it if it goes wrong

It’s your call. I’m just telling you I have seen this exact situation. I worked with a load of men from a different culture. All their wives and kids were abroad. They saw western culture as a sweet shop.

They were all shagging about and used to openly brag about western women and how gullible they were, it was pretty awful tbh. The women sucked it up and the wives knew.

The issue was there was always more than one woman over here, no matter what they said. They all used to brag about it. There was always long term plans to bring the families over (this took years). So don’t be lulled into a false sense of security because the wife isn’t here. They would of course not tell their multiple western girlfriends this.

One of my friends fell into a relationship with one of these guys. It didn’t end well, he cheated if you can call it that and after about five years his wife moved over. He family unit and the lives of her kids as she knew it was wrecked.

It may seem like love and hearts now however think down the line. You will never be married, your potential kids will never be ‘legitimate’. You’ll be dropped like a stone when his family comes over or he goes back.

You may not like what I have to say but I’ve seen it first hand so there you go.

Yes I'm sure u have and I know mine is following very similar pattern but only time will tell.

Good luck to you. I’m not sure what the point of this thread was tbh.

No I think leave it now

What the hell was the point of this thread?

As no one is getting hurt by it and you know the score, go and be happy.
As there is a cultural interplay, he is likely hesitant to divorce the wife and mother to his kids.
My father (Muslim) was married when he met my mother (Catholic), he married my mother then went back to his native country and divorced his first wife (no kids). Yes, he had two wives are one point!
Had three children with his English wife. Still married today although marriage has had its challenges.
People can be very judgmental when things don't follow the Western cultural norms.

Yes I know

I'm taking the risk with him I have to.
My opinion of him is he is so lovely, kind, and good. I can turn my back on him.

That should say can't