Should I presume date is still on?

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So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

I would send a message.
Just checking all OK for this evening.
See you at the restaurant at 7:00

Maybe text as you are getting ready?" Just getting ready - see you at x time /place!!"

Why can't you just casually text "Still on for later?" and let that be that?

The time game playing and coyness starts is the beginning of the end. Granted you shouldn't dance to fiddle of his tune but I think it'd be better for all concerned to have it out and be done with. I've been at all stages of this kind of thing and I can tell you it helps no-one.

I would definitely want it confirmed that the date is still on!

Just text and say “Are we still on for tonight?”

I’d work on the basis it’s still on. I wouldn’t expect to have to confirm something like that. Surely he’d have said yesterday if it wasn’t?

My BF and I make arrangements like this - we make set time/place and turn up. I know though that we are the exception. In this instance I'd likely want some extra confirmation, just as PP have said, text when you are getting ready although I'd still expect to be going having not heard anything to suggest different.

Obviously I have babysitter booked so if it's not on then fine but would rather not wait until hour before to find out because of cancelling

Date should be at 7pm what's a acceptable time to drop a text to check

I would definitely do send the text now. Just do it, don't worry about acceptability!

Now, don't over think It.
Just a 'Hope your days going well, everything still ok for tonight' would be fine.

If it's a first date and is via a dating app/internet, I'd definitely text to check. I have booked babysitters, been told a time and a place, but on the day heard nothing so texted - and heard nothing from them ever again! There are so many fruit loops out there save yourself the time of weeding it out now

Oh well guessing it's not, sent message about half hour ago, just went online to send friend messsge and noticed he was online but he didn't open or answer my text

Disappointing as this would of been my first date in over 2 years and it was going so well even upto his checking I was happy with the chosen restaurant yesterday, so no idea what I done wrong

Feel so stupid as I had told a few friends I was going on date as looking forward to it.. no going to have to respond to all the how did it go texts

Better no date than a shit date. Can you make other plans? It would be a shame to waste the baby sitter.

Yes I would always check on the day. Good job you did I think.

Just disappointing as he seemed so normal, no obsessive texting, talking dirty etc seemed just so decent and normal unlike the idiots who try to get to in depth with messages straight away or start tiring things sexual even before the first date.

Guess he could be busy st work but if he was able to go online to read/respond to another text then sure he could of took 2 moments just to say "yep see you there"

I’d have always checked it was still on, you did the right thing. Hope he replies soon but if not he obviously wasn’t worth it

Well that's weird, I wouldn't assume it was definitely off just yet OP

Well he's back online so clearly active on whatsapp and still not read/responded

Half an hour is nothing!
If my phone goes at work, I'll check it to see if it's urgent or work related, and if not I just leave it. I answer personal texts during breaks or wait until 5pm.
Also, WhatsApp sometimes get stuck and will leave a status as online when someone isn't.
And I've another friend who leaves her phone open and on all the time. It doesn't automatically shut down after 2/5/ whatever minutes. So she's always online even though the phone is in her bag and she's driving.
If you think he's normal, hang in there a bit longer!

Had it been constantly on line I may of though the same but he's been going on/off every 5 mins or so, so can only presume he has chosen rather than just say yes/no he's doing the whole dint open message and ignore thing

Can't you say something along the lines of you need to confirm with the babysitter as it's a problem to cancel at the last hour, but if he can't make it then there's no worries. Just to let you know as soon as he can?

It's arranged,not sure why you think it isn't tbh..

I'd prepare for no answer based on what you've said so far. It really is good that you didn't even get to first date to weed him out, rather than further down the line when you may be feel more attached. Hopefully you can enjoy a night out with a friend instead, now the babysitter is booked.

I'd give it another hour and send a last message saying you need to cancel the babysitter if this date isn't going ahead so if you don't hear from him in the next half hour you'll be doing just that.

I think you're writing him off very swiftly...if it was me I wouldnt be texting and j would be turning up at the restaurant. What's the worst that can happen? If he doesn't show, fair enough you never have to speak to him again. Dont cry before you're hurt. An old saying but a true one.