Should I presume date is still on?

[lnging]

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

Dont cancel the sitter op! Take a book and go have a nice glass of wine and some desert. You might meet someone better if he is a no show and gives you a nice hour to yourself.

Could he have possibly thought he text back but it hasn’t sent or he didn’t press send?

Maybe send one more prompting text and if he doesn’t reply then don’t go?

Sorry OP but as a veteran of OLD, it sounds to me like he has no intention of turning up.

Either he's changed his mind and chickened out of being straight with you or he is actually married/in a relationship and was just after the ego boost of knowing he could get a date.

No way in hell would I go to the effort of getting ready and going to the restaurant in the vague hope that he deigns to turn up.

I'd cancel the sitter and get a takeaway.

And block/delete his number.

Can you keep the babysitter and go do something else instead OP? Visit a friend or go see a film? Make the most of a child free evening.

If he was decent he would have replied to confirm even if he wasn't sure whether you were asking or not so I'd write him off. I'm about to start online dating again and it's this sort of thing that I dread so I feel for you. Bullet dodged though.

I def wouldn't go to the trouble of getting ready for him. See a mate instead.

I wouldnt have thought i needed to reply to your message tbh

Don't you dare stay in OP!

Get out there and go for a drink and something to eat yourself or the cinema like you thought about doing.

You never know,you just might meet someone whilst you're out

Go and have a little fun, don't let that tool ruin a free night off xx

Nah, he's not gonna turn up op.

I would be pretty certain he's not going to turn up, don't go out of your way for him. Why not give him a call to confirm?

Go

He's so flipping rude I'd not be meeting him now anyway. A simple thumbs up emoji takes 2 seconds.

Erm he defo isn't coming unless he is really bizzare and thinks it's normal not to reply.

Go out by yourself to a nice bar or restaurant and meet the man of your dreams then report back to us.

Good luck ! X

He's ignoring you, please don't call him op.

Go for your steak and lobster enjoy it with a nice glass of wine take a book if he's there he's there if not you'll have a nice meal and then never speak to him again

I don't think he'll turn up op , if I were you I wouldn't show up. It takes 2 seconds to reply to confirm he obviously doesn't have the guts to cancel so will just keep you waiting.

100% OP you are supposed to be in that steak and lobster place tonight.. with or without him...You're destined for an epiphany tonight!! Get looking gorgeous and get yourself there. You can berate him for his first date rudeness on your wedding day!!! Or thank him in your head for the ace night out you had with yourself. Whichever, is a result 😊

I agree it's rude not to reply, but he confirmed time and place yesterday and OP's text to him today was basically saying 'we're still on for 7' I think he will turn up, if he wanted to pull out he would've let her know.

If I were in your position I'd probably send another single text with just a question mark to prompt him for a reply. I'd hate to get all ready and then be let down. What an arse!!!!!

So weird he didn’t just reply and be honest!

Your outfit looked amazing and he is missing our big time op

Maybe stay positive and hope he messages after work??? Think he should reply by 6.30?? So many men don’t rush to text and just assume there’s no change in plans?

Oh god, I could shake this man until his teeth rattle!

Please go to the restaurant OP, but just go with the idea that you're going yo enjoy some nice wine, your book and a DC free evening.
If he does turn up (and I do hope so) then that's a bonus. Or not, depending on how you get along
As for your friends knowing; there's no embarrassment about a no-show and they'll all agree that it's his loss.
Fingers crossed for you

Take the book op and hit him over the head with it if he is there

Are you going OP?

Has he replied yet OP? X