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Should I presume date is still on?

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lnging · 31/01/2018 12:46

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

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hellsbellsmelons · 31/01/2018 15:59

I prefer the tan ones.
But a man might prefer over the knee?

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lnging · 31/01/2018 15:59

ChutneyNose made you cry?

From a guys point of view what's your thoughts?

Like I say last message from him was yesterday mid day asking if the steak and lobster night was ok?

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pollythedolly · 31/01/2018 15:59

First boots, definitely.

Hope all goes well!

Desmondo2016 · 31/01/2018 16:01

Omg I'm always reading messages and unless they are life and death I get caught up with what I'm going at work and reply several hours later. Chill bill and have a great date!

SummerRoberts · 31/01/2018 16:01

I think the second bouts look better and I have my fingers crossed for a fab date for you!

sportyfool · 31/01/2018 16:01

I prefer the second boots , I think they are more balanced . Have fun!

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lnging · 31/01/2018 16:01

We haven't had constant texts sometimes maybe one in morning then nothing till evening other times may exchange couple throughout day then nothing all evening until next afternoon

My thoughts are even if it's still on she should of at lest acknowledge my text today

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MarthaArthur · 31/01/2018 16:02

I like both boots but im in live with the 2nd ones 😍

Mummblebee · 31/01/2018 16:03

Has he still not responded yet?? Why is he keeping us all waiting lol.

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lnging · 31/01/2018 16:06

Mummblebee nope still nothing

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NewSingleMummy · 31/01/2018 16:09

I like both boots but prefer the first pair

BaronessBomburst · 31/01/2018 16:11

I prefer the first boots. The lighter colour goes better with the top.
Besides over-the knee boots don't look so good sitting down. Save those for a standing around at a concert/ in a bar date.

MarthaArthur · 31/01/2018 16:12

Could you text again at 6.30ish and just say something like "looking forward to tonight". Or ask if he wants a drink if you arrive first? I feel like i am like him though as once i confirm the day before i just turn up at stated time.

ALittleBitConfused1 · 31/01/2018 16:12

I agree , and fwiw I would always check, I know people will say it's insecure but actually it's just common sense with old, you come across a lot of time wasters and I myself have cancelled first dates at late notice (I've always told them though)
And yes he may be busy but yep it only takes two seconds.

ChutneyNose · 31/01/2018 16:16

That it was your first date in ages and you’d told all your friends. 😢
I don’t have an explanation other than may be he’s tied up at work. Either way it takes less than 10 seconds so it’s a bit off.

expatinspain · 31/01/2018 16:18

I have my fingers crossed for you OP! Next time, full sentences and punctuation in every dating text Grin

grobagsforever · 31/01/2018 16:28

Check if he's unmatched or blocked you on dating app. Usually a sigh of ghosting

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lnging · 31/01/2018 16:29

Yes it's my first date in long time, I had my heart truly broken by a guy I honestly thought I was going to marry... turns out he was already married with 3 kids Shock

Honestly I think tonight is a no go but willing to give him benefit of doubt and just go with it until I hear any different from him

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lnging · 31/01/2018 16:31

Nope still showing on dating app not blocked

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Sallystyle · 31/01/2018 16:31

I would have expected a text back by now.

I would just text again and say you need to confirm babysitter etc.

However, if I was dating I wouldn't be concerned about coming across too eager etc. I don't play games, so if I want to make sure he is actually coming I would ask.

DixieNormas · 31/01/2018 16:41

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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lnging · 31/01/2018 16:45

Yes I would of expected a reply to! M

Jesus I'm wasting my time even getting ready aren't I

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SnowGoArea · 31/01/2018 16:46

I'd just reply saying "Oops, left the question mark off that last message - was meant to be me asking you if you're still on for tonight! Let me know either way so I can sort babysitting. Thanks"

Sallystyle · 31/01/2018 16:54

Hi. Sorry, I left off the question mark. Just wanted to double check you are still on for tonight as I haven't heard back from you.

No drama, no games and you will know where you stand. It's really simple. If he is going to be put off by a message like that than he isn't worth it anyway.

Text him.

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lnging · 31/01/2018 16:58

No I refuse to chase him

I would of thought just a confirmation to my last text would of been polite and expected

But willing to give benefit of doubt in case he's just took it how some posters have said and I was just confirming and it didn't need a reply

I will go to venue and if he turns up great I will update from loo, if not I will have glass of wine and read my book and he will not hear from me again

Understand at this stage he is prob talking to other girls and that's fine, but don't put all your eggs in one basket

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