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Should I presume date is still on?

405 replies

lnging · 31/01/2018 12:46

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

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Aridane · 31/01/2018 16:59

I wouldn't really expect a reply to your message - after all, you were just confirming that you were still on for this evening. Go along and have a good time!

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 31/01/2018 17:00

If he's not a texter; he might not think that needs a reply. A few people I text would only think to text back to that if they weren't okay for 7pm - they'd just take it as confirmation that I was still going.

You can't really call whether he's usually a texter, as you haven't talked much, which makes this complicated.

If you're dressed and paying the babysitter anyway; I'd go, and then do something nice by myself if he doesn't show. Good luck Wine

blueskyinmarch · 31/01/2018 17:01

My DH wouldn't reply to a message like that, especially if he read it at work. He would just think 'oh cool' and expect me to be there. Hope it all works out for you.

mollifly · 31/01/2018 17:03

I've got my fingers crossed for you OP! Hopefully he texts back/turns up!

MarthaArthur · 31/01/2018 17:03

Thats the best attitude to take op. I hope he shows up and is a blast. But dont waste a child free evening. The book and wine sounds perfect 😊

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lnging · 31/01/2018 17:09

Luckily babysitter is free.... I have amazing friends Grin

I really hope he does turn up as so far he as seemed so normal and decent, had loads of constantly stream of messaging, asking for naked pics etc and he's just been normal just polite chit chat etc so had hope for him

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BitOutOfPractice · 31/01/2018 17:10

I hunk of it need to chill your beans.

Hope you have a lovely date

loveyoutothemoon · 31/01/2018 17:12

First boots-nicer and more classy, also will go with your top better.

LastNightMyWifeHooveredMyHead · 31/01/2018 17:14

Good luck, OP!

ALittleBitConfused1 · 31/01/2018 17:14

I wouldn't bother texting again. If I hadn't heard back from him by six I would make other arrangements and not think twice about him. It's bad manners not to confirm arrangements, maybe not if you know someone well enough but on a first date I would expect a reply to confirm, especially if I had text him to ask if it was still on.
Out of interest has he been on his online dating app today, just wondering as you said you'd checked to make sure you wasn't blocked.
Call my cynical but you come across some right twats on old sites Grin

sexnotgender · 31/01/2018 17:16

That’s a bit crap, he should definitely have replied I’d be pissed off.
Hope he turns up!

KimchiLaLa · 31/01/2018 17:17

I really hope he does turn up as so far he as seemed so normal and decent, had loads of constantly stream of messaging, asking for naked pics etc

Eh? It's not "normal" to ask for naked pics this early on?

MarthaArthur · 31/01/2018 17:18

kimchi i think she means other men on the site asked for naked photos not her date.

confusedhelpme · 31/01/2018 17:19

@KimchiLaLa she means others not him

loveyoutothemoon · 31/01/2018 17:20

Actually if he's been online lots of times but not read your message then that's not a good sign. You get this a lot with OLD, people mess around!

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lnging · 31/01/2018 17:21

Yes sorry I meant other men asking that not him

Well text was sent st 1.30pm do 4 hours ago, and gut is telling me he's just ignoring me

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Boredboredboredboredbored · 31/01/2018 17:29

He's ignoring you op. Come on any polite person would have sent a reply especially if you're really keen to meet somebody.

Mellodrama · 31/01/2018 17:30

What a wanker Sad his loss, ignorant prick Angry

Paperdoll16 · 31/01/2018 17:35

Ew I wouldn't go. If he's not that invested in replying or wanting to even chat to his date this evening (despite being on WhatsApp several times) then I would seriously not go.

help1978 · 31/01/2018 17:35

I think you've dodged a bullet.
It's a shit feeling
I had so many bad experiences until I met my the one
Don't give up lovely x

GlitterUnicornsAndAllThatJazz · 31/01/2018 17:35

I wouldn't write him off just yet...!

Lj8893 · 31/01/2018 17:35

I think your gut feeling is probably right but I think it's worth going to the restaurant anyway just in case.

Rudgie47 · 31/01/2018 17:36

I'd just go out with a mate or something and you'll probably meet someone better anyway.
I think hes blowing you off OP. I would be very surprised if he turned up. Hes rude not replying.

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lnging · 31/01/2018 17:38

Yes I sent message at 1.30pm and I saw him online 3 times between then and 3.30pm

Haven't seen him online since but still think he is ignoring it, I would 100% expect a text by 6pm at least just saying see you there or something

Part of me just wants to cancel sitter and just stay in

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Lettucepray · 31/01/2018 17:39

Unless he's bottled it.......

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