Should I presume date is still on?

[lnging]

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

I def won't be texting again, I have already texted once and if he chooses not to respond then that's my answer, I don't need to chase him up telling him I have babysitters to cancel etc

I won't write him off totally yet as yes he could be busy st with and those times he was online could be work related but if I haven't heard by 4ish then will not bother!

will prob keep my sitter and just go out and do my own thing for while

I agree with you Inging, I wouldn't text again either. Assuming you're confident your message was delivered, he's got his chance to reply.

You've already arranged to meet. Why are you assuming it isn't on? He hasn't said it isn't so it is. Being all insecure isn't going to do you any favours.

OP - chill! I'd give it at least about hour before writing him off. Maybe he's trying to look casual by not respond straight away. I had a first date the other week. He texted in the morning to confirm and it took me a couple of hours to respond. I was online in that time but just dealing with more urgent stuff! I turned up to the date.

He could have been on a whatsapp call for all you know! Then he'd be online but not messaging. Your head is running away with you!

Keep the babysitter and if for some reason he doesn't turn up then just enjoy yourself - his loss.

What an idiot this man is!!!!

It is so annoying that people think they can waste your time. Arghhhhh

Hah! All very well saying you've arranged to meet why check but I arranged to meet someone once, he text at 6.00pm asking was I excited etc. Never showed up !!! And another one who never showed up despite texting to say he was on his way - and he couldn't have showed up and seen me and changed his mind as I parked round the corner rather than on the pub car park lol

letsdo he could well be busy? He may assume it’s on Without a second thought... not an idiot... yet!
OP give the man a chance!

I only sent

" hey hope your having good day, still ok for 7pm x

So don't think it shows insecurities just that I'm confirming nothing has come up just end etc.

Been hour and half since I sent and no response

I will get ready to go out, may even take myself to cinema in own but if I don't hear anything then I won't turn up at restaurant

Can't see any reason he wouldn't of got text, it shows tei grey ticks that it's delivered at at times shown he is online and I have been sending/receiving plenty of messages through whatsapp today

If that’s exactly what you sent, then you haven’t actually asked him a question.

I’d read “still ok for 7” as you telling me you were still coming. Not “still ok for 7?” Which is asking me if we are still on.

My dh used to have a rule of only responding to messages if they needed an answer. He’d look at that, think “great” and carry on with his day.

Eeek kind of agree FYC but age can't text again now

Iggley it takes a minute maximum to text a reply - IMO he is an idiot with no manners !!!

As OP stated he has been online on Whatsapp but not replied to her - Why wouldn’t you reply ?!?!?

His phone could be showing him as online when he’s not - if he’s using sat nav in the car and it’s open in the background or something.. I would just wait and see.

You could always send something like “have just noticed that that wasn’t a question! Should have said, are we still on for 7? Hope your day’s not been too busy”

I wouldn’t worry about a non-reply until work was over, but would probably want confirmation before I got ready.

I sent

Still ok for 7pm?

With a ? it reads as you are saying you are still okay for 7. Maybe he's a pedant and doesn't like your being used instead of you're!?

Some people may be sat in a opened message, to a colleague, friend, family member and be mid conversation therefore not see new message pop up, so many other reasons. My friend does this all the time!

I was going to post almost exactly what FYC did. My DH would read that, be pleased, and not think for a second that it might be a hint for a reply.

It doesn't look good. There are a lot of time wasters out there. But he could be on and off line because he's constantly mobile or in an area of intermittent signal. My phone is always on silent and I don't check it much.

As to dinner when I set a date with someone that's my word, I don't expect the need for confirmation on the day.

So don't give up complete hope yet.

Thanks for clarifying.

See how it goes for now. Have a back up plan and don’t panic yet.

There couldn’t be a hundred valid reasons for not replying at work, or he could be a prat. Either way, at least you will find out early if he’s not worth your time.

Could not couldn't.

Omg just show up at 7 as arranged. I wouldn't reply to that either i would assume it wad confirmation you were going. Also some people need to use whatsapp at work like me but i cant take personal messages. Means absolutely nothing.

I won't write him off totally yet

Your choice, but really? Why would you want to meet someone who I presume you've only sent texts to. I'd be wanting to have had 1-2 phone conversations, for you both to show some initial commitment to meeting and spending time together.

Texts don't cut the mustard. Get things into the real world with verbal communication.

Why would you consider meeting someone who can't be arsed and has let you down?

IMO he is an idiot with no manners !!!

Yup.

I think it's just good manners to confirm on the day. There are so many time-wasters/flakes out there that having a bit of reassurance is needed!
I wouldn't write him off just yet - could well be busy or his phone showing him as online when he's not but personally, I think it's quite thoughtless and even rude not to send a quick confirmation text at some point during the day.