This is going to hurt

[WelshBoris]

I shouldn't be posting because it's too raw but I've got no-one else to talk to.

Boyfriend, been with him for nearly a year, I adore him so does my DD.

He was out drinking all day yesterday, I met him in our local before going to town with the girls. He was kissing me, telling me he loved me.

I was going home to his house, got in about 1.30. My key wouldn't work. His was in the other side.

I shouted, he came to the window and let me in.

I walked in the living room and there was a white thong on the floor. I walked out of the house, round the back to see some old slapper clambering over the wall.

He was drunk, he's sorry etc etc

The pain is physical, I feel like someone is kicking me in the stomach over and over again,

I close my eyes and see him in the bathroom with his head in his hands, then I see me, him and my DD in bed together yesterday morning trying to give the biggest hugs.

Please please someone tell me this isn't my fault and the pain will go

People do stupid things when they are pissed.
Not excusing him but they do.
Really feel for you,you're a great gal.

Not pissed enough to lock the door tho MD?

Cunt.

He is gutted though, good. Hope it's eating him up inside and when I walk in the pub next week looking a million dollars his heart melts and then he can kiss my WELSH ASS.

Bastard. Treating me like this, he should consider himself lucky that I would have stayed with such a miserable, grumpy, gambling waster.

So do you think if you hadn't found the knickers on the floor,he would have brazened it out??

I love you too LL, I'm angry now.

I have to get my stuff later from his house, that's not going to be fun. I'll do it when he is in work.

And I promise not to take revenge and put prawns in his curtains or something equally childish.

WB, please please don't go down that road of wondering why he did it.

I had an ex who cheated on me with the worst possible person and his only explanation was "because I could".

I met a counsellor (male) who told me that men really are dominated by what's in their pants and sex is just sex.

Not that it's any excuse or justification but at least yours was pissed - mine was stone cold sober and still chose to do it.

It is a choice, some men choose not to follow up on these sorts of opportunities some don't.

Ultimately what I'm trying to say is that this is not about what you don't have or couldn't give him.

He's a twat and when he's old and lonely and looking back on his life there's a very small chance he'll realise he's a twat.

Meanwhile you will have moved on and will be happy and loved and in the midst of a great family.

And let's face it, he'll be old and dried up a long long time before you will.

ps: I'm 40 btw and it's already looking a bit bleak so he'll be looking down the barrel of a lonely future pretty soon!

No idea MD.

I don't want to think along those lines TBH, because then I would have come home and got into bed with him. After her.

Who knows what was going on inside his head?

climbing oevr a wall???

hwo odd
so soryy wb
bin him
dont accept the sorry

why was she hiding?

He heard me trying my key in the door, and kicked her out of the back door and told her go to over the wall.

Silly cow for doing it.

How much worse would this have been if you had not found out and then slept with him or carried on in ignorant bliss.

He is a tosser and I hope his willy drops off.

The very best of luck to you WB. You and your gorgeous little girl deserve (and will find) much better.

I hope his willy drops off too ggg

Im glad that your not taking this shit!
If my dh ever did this to me I wouldnt give him a second chance! We have a dd together and Im the same age as you. Good on you! Im so sorry that you have had to go through this hun, but at some point down the line when the pain has faded, you will come out of this a stronger person!
Im talking from experience (previous relationship)

It just sucks, WB, and I'm sorry it had to happen to you.

Sending you strength vibes.

Im so sorry Welsh - hope you are feeling better today

Boris

I said it last night and I will say it again, you are a stunning young lady with your whole life before you. He is not worth jack S**T.

He is going to end up a very very lonely old man.

I am glad you are getting angry because this is not about you, it is about him and his lack of respect for women and in particular you.

I am so so angry on your behalf.

Although I personally wouldnt waste my time getting angry over a tossser like this

Oh Boris, I've just seen this. I can only second all the sentiments that have already been expressed. You are a warm intelligent beautiful woman and trust me on this, you will find someone worthy of you. I mean this, there is a room here for you and your beautiful little M in the Summer, the lads in Dublin would melt for that Welsh accent and wit, not to mention your stunning good looks! Sending you fecking huge mahoosive

bin

i couldn't trust him again

so sorry

Hope your ok today Boris.

Glad to see you've got to the angry stage. I'm concentrating very hard on his willy dropping off too, or at least shrivelling up like a festering stump.

How can it be your fault. Of course it isn't. Men keep their brains in their trousers, they really do. I'm so very very sorry for you. Please look after yourself and do what ever is best for YOU.