This is going to hurt

[WelshBoris]

I shouldn't be posting because it's too raw but I've got no-one else to talk to.

Boyfriend, been with him for nearly a year, I adore him so does my DD.

He was out drinking all day yesterday, I met him in our local before going to town with the girls. He was kissing me, telling me he loved me.

I was going home to his house, got in about 1.30. My key wouldn't work. His was in the other side.

I shouted, he came to the window and let me in.

I walked in the living room and there was a white thong on the floor. I walked out of the house, round the back to see some old slapper clambering over the wall.

He was drunk, he's sorry etc etc

The pain is physical, I feel like someone is kicking me in the stomach over and over again,

I close my eyes and see him in the bathroom with his head in his hands, then I see me, him and my DD in bed together yesterday morning trying to give the biggest hugs.

Please please someone tell me this isn't my fault and the pain will go

hope mini is on the mend wb x mini bongo is also suffering atm. must be the weather.

Yes I am still here

DTM - who the hell are you.....?

Sorry to read this WB, I really, truly am. I hope now that a little more water has passed under the bridge that you are feeling a little clearer in where you want to take things. I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do, the ball is in your court now, you have the control.

FWIW, your age gap did not stamp 'unworkable' onto your relationship, nor did it mean that the older partner has to be 'immature' or the younger partner to be 'mature for their years' for it to work. Comments like this really piss me off. His age (and yours) have fark all to do with his actions. People that say they do have anything to do with it are living with a very narrow view of relationships.

Similarly those that say you must leave him now are living in a very black and white world. As more wise posters than I have said, give it time, don't make rash decisions and don't leap to do things because you think it is what others would do. There may very well be a way through this for you and him as a couple, as a family, you decide whether you are prepared to do the work required to get things back on track.

It's up to you. Don't be bullied into any decision. Good luck xxx

How are you WB?