This is going to hurt

[WelshBoris]

I shouldn't be posting because it's too raw but I've got no-one else to talk to.

Boyfriend, been with him for nearly a year, I adore him so does my DD.

He was out drinking all day yesterday, I met him in our local before going to town with the girls. He was kissing me, telling me he loved me.

I was going home to his house, got in about 1.30. My key wouldn't work. His was in the other side.

I shouted, he came to the window and let me in.

I walked in the living room and there was a white thong on the floor. I walked out of the house, round the back to see some old slapper clambering over the wall.

He was drunk, he's sorry etc etc

The pain is physical, I feel like someone is kicking me in the stomach over and over again,

I close my eyes and see him in the bathroom with his head in his hands, then I see me, him and my DD in bed together yesterday morning trying to give the biggest hugs.

Please please someone tell me this isn't my fault and the pain will go

Don't be angry with yourself - you trusted him and he's destroyed that through sheer stupidity. We're all very at him on your behalf - what an idiot to let go of you.

what a bummer
what a fuckwit
i wouldn't have him anyway
way too old for you

i'm so so sorry that you are having to go thru this.

be kind to yourself and give yourself time to get thru the first awful raw pain of it.

something that occurs to me is that he knew very well what he was doing. he left his key in the door to prevent you from walking in. if they hadn't missed the thong you may have been none the wiser.

he doesn't deserve you that's for sure and you're worth a million of her.

WB - at him!

Absolutely NOT your fault - feel very for you and DD but it will get better.

(btw age is certainly not the issue - if anything he is old enough to know better)

So at him myself and don't know him, knew someone a bit like him once - older than me, gorgeous, loved him loads - didn't change the fact at the end of the day I was too good for him - and you are too good for this sort of treatment as well.

I agree with others, you are too good for this jerk. I am on your behalf, you deserve better.
Take care.xx

Drunk or not his actions shout load and clear - I have no respect for you or your feelings or those of your daughter.

You have to bin him I am afraid. It is not your fault at all if he cannot keep his penis safely zipped up.

And as for what she has and you don't - well it's not self respect that is for sure.

And as for her being nearer his age - she is more a dried up old bag than you will ever be honey - if that is what floats his boat he is one sad little fecker!! (sorry for all you old 39 year olds out there!!)

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That is really shit news WB. I feel really on your behalf. I think whatever else, you need some time to think this all through. I would advise continuing to stay in, and give not seeing him while you make your decisions.
I know that sometimes relationships can be salvaged after something like this. But, sometimes even if you try and put it behind you, it can be like a stain that wont fade.
Sorry

I am so sorry your having to fo through this WB, i don't really know what to say but i hope you find the strength to get through this i really do. I know it hurts

oh boris, sweetheart - i will ring you as soon as littlies are in bed....xxxxxxxxxx

Oh, no.

I am so, so sorry to read this, Welsh.

Don't know what to say.

I feel your pain, but I wish you didn't have to know it.

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'Alcohol is no excuse, I've been drunk on many occasions and turned down many many offers. Because I loved him. '

Yeah, you're right there.

It would have shown more respect if he hadn't expected you to buy that shite excuse.

God you poor thing.

I WAS with a similar man = he adored me - he was never faithful. he is now a sad fuck of 60 married to a young Thai lady and I am happily married.

You will find happiness without him not with him

What a shit bag he is.
I have seen you and you are bloody gorgeous, what the hell did he think he was doing.

I'm so sorry you are hurting WB

Oh WB

I know I don't know you, but the sadness is dripping off your first post

He doesn't even know what he has lost yet & of course your heart is breaking for your little girl, it's only natural.

I remember when I was 17 I was going out with a guy who had his own place. We jumped into bed one Sunday evening & there below the pillow was the wrapper off a condom. It wasn't us as I was on the pill I promptly jumped out of bed again & walked out the door. His loss.

I think you know what you have to do sweetheart. Be the bigger person. Do you think you could ever 100% trust him again?

Did he tell you who she was?

I wish I could say something that could comfort you more, but please know I hate to think of you being hurt.

I guess the thing is as well, WB is that you caught him this time. If you hadn't would he have confessed? Who knows perhaps this isn't the first time.

But, only you know him and only you can decide whether your relationship is worth salvaging or not.

Good luck x

Oh WB, I'm so so sorry to read this.

Listen, it really, 100% is NOT your fault. It's nothing YOU did, HE did it, he's the tosser. And drinking is no excuse, really, leaving the key in so you couldn't get in shows he was sober enough to plan that. And so if he could have got away with it he would have done.

And you were NOT wrong to let him into your dd's life, not at all. You do have to trust people sometimes and if they then prove to be unworthy, that's not your fault.

Can I just check, is this the bloke that was sanctimonious about a poxy amount of cocaine? If so, what a cnt.

OMG, I forgot about that, WWW!

I think it is, IIRC.

I'm so sorry, WB.

WB, I'm so sorry to hear this sweetie

It is not your fault, you have done nothing wrong. Dont feel bad about your DD - she is very young and she'll be fine should you decide to get rid of him completely.

Of course, you dont have to make any decisions at all right now. Obviously I am livid with him on your behalf and think you deserve soooooooooooo much better than this. But you have to do what is right for you.

I've left a message on your voicemail - i just also wanted to say if you needed a break away - you and DD are both very welcome at Chez QV for a weekend - or longer if you need it. We'd love to have you here. DD and DS would adore your DD.

I hope you are able to get some sleep tonight.

We all love you loads my lovely.

xxxx