This is going to hurt

[WelshBoris]

I shouldn't be posting because it's too raw but I've got no-one else to talk to.

Boyfriend, been with him for nearly a year, I adore him so does my DD.

He was out drinking all day yesterday, I met him in our local before going to town with the girls. He was kissing me, telling me he loved me.

I was going home to his house, got in about 1.30. My key wouldn't work. His was in the other side.

I shouted, he came to the window and let me in.

I walked in the living room and there was a white thong on the floor. I walked out of the house, round the back to see some old slapper clambering over the wall.

He was drunk, he's sorry etc etc

The pain is physical, I feel like someone is kicking me in the stomach over and over again,

I close my eyes and see him in the bathroom with his head in his hands, then I see me, him and my DD in bed together yesterday morning trying to give the biggest hugs.

Please please someone tell me this isn't my fault and the pain will go

What a git!

Ow sweetheart, you are as well off out of it.

Jeez, was that the best he could do?

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I still love him.

of course you do WB.

I can imagine you do - it's not easy to just switch off emotions, even when they've been bastards. It must be a really nasty shock for you.
He doesn't deserve you though & I'm very with him on your behalf.

WB i am so sorry

Do you know what this is why some men are just so utterly stupid, one stupid shag with some slut from the street & he has lost a lot more, he has lost you, your dd, a great relationship a future, why do they bother? what is the fucking point?

I never do understand, well yes i do understand to a point (some men just think with there dicks) but if they just thought about everything they stand to lose.

Hopefully WB you will get through this, it will be painful but you & your dd deserve so much better, it is his loss at the end of the day he had something special & throw it away.

Take care xx

You will love him for a while Boris...

I love chocolate (buttons), but they are not good for me and I deserve better (green and black)....

Sweetheart, those feelings wont disappear overnight. It will take time, and distance from the here and now.

Allow yourself that.

Oh, and make sure he gives you back any money he owes you too.

What a git. All this "I'm sorry", but not even trying to explain?? Not that there is an explantion, but "I'm sorry" almost excuses any kind of proper thinking about it (from him - do you know what I mean?). I'm glad you've started to get angry but I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Have you got support from friends and family to help you?

Oh welshy

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WB I have only just seen this and I am gutted for you, you poor love

I am going to add my two cents. It goes without saying that you are too good for him. And it goes without saying that your self esteem is such that you actually are devastated because you know that you have no future with him because you know you deserve a lot more respect. And there have been indications before that he was talking the talk but not walking the walk.

I think that what another poster said earlier on may be true. He may well have been freaked out by the intensity of the relationship and unable to be straight with you because unfortunately he is a coward. And you deserve better than a coward. And so does M.

My love, you have had a lucky escape. I'm sure it hurts like hell and I'm sure it will take a long time to get over but this man is not right for you. He is not worthy of you love and certainly not a deserving potential father to M or your much wanted little one.

You will be fine and believe me when I say that the pain will get bearable and relief will set in, it will get easier. You are in my thoughts xxxx

Shit Welshy. What a tosspot he is. He has thrown everything away.
How can any of this possibly be your fault?
At least he said 'I am sorry' and didn't try and make any pathetic excuse for his Dickforbrains.

I know why he came to you and didn't let you into the house - he is shit scared that you will trash the joint (as you rightly deserve!)

Big bear hugs heading Welshwards.

I'm not sure if it helps you WB to have everyone piling in here calling him names and telling you you deserve better.

You don't want to lose him. He was very drunk and very stupid.

If you want to give him another chance sit down very seriously with him and say there'll be no more sex till he's been checked out at the genito-urinary clinic and has a certificate to prove he's clean. Also, that if he EVER gets that drunk again you're out.

That way, you can prove to yourself whether or not he's worth hanging on to or hanging out to dry.

Sorry for what you're going through xx

Give yourself time to cool down and then see how you feel in a week or so. It seems a lot to be throwing away.
How drunk was he? I know not drunk enough not to leave his key in the door - but surely he knew you were coming round?? He was prob too drunk to get it up anyway.
If this is the only blot on his copy book - I'd think about it hard before binning him - but if there are other warning signs - maybe for the best.
I'm sure we've all done stuff we shouldn't have - whether we've been caught or not and have been given a 2nd chance - I know I have!

Oh WB - I am sorry. Please stay cross with him though for as long as it takes for the other feelings to fade. He isn't going to provide stability or a good role model for your DD so for that reason alone he needs to be gone. Come over the bridge after september and I'll take you out and find you a nice man!

Take care.

WB of course you still love him, you can't just switch your emotions off.

You will learn in time that your feelings towards him will change so much.

If his willy doesn't fall off, lets hope he caught something off her!!!!

Just hope he hasn't passed anything onto you.