NC Dignity Club Pt 4: The Only Way Is Up

[Basseting]

Welcome to the No Contact Dignity Club Part 4

If you are aiming for it, trying to maintain it, being 'offered' it, coming back to it... NC support is here!

Oh yes... My homemade marshmallows are just about the most popular thing on the planet!

Pants. He has not replied. Now I shall either have a wasted trip or look like a muppet saying I was going then not turning up.

Anxious totally get what NK saying about He's already blocked you and do you really want to have a text relationship with someone who rejects people. He sounds like hard work and you're not even going out with him but at the same time there is no harm to test the waters,if you might be unsure about his behaviour and why he blocked you ,so I would send the message today ,something like : Hi,I know you have an operation tomorrow so wanted to say good luck ,fingers crossed for you. Let me know how it goes x
Don't say you are worried,just put enough information to show you care and being thouthful...

When is your tripBassetting?

Oldbook and NK I don't think Id be able to deal with low key contact,Im very much all or nothing kinda person.All this secondgessing,analysing their words, behaviour and their communication pattern, trying to have a balanced contact or to be in control will drive my anxiety levels up,so I prefer good old NC ,no hopes, no leading me on- out of sight out of mind eventually

teens and nk thank you for the advice. I will text... and will go with your suggestion teens. Not too ott. Thank you. One day I will have the confidence not to second guess everything.

Basseting I am sorry. Is the trip this weekend? Would he answer an actual call? Would you get a refund if you cancel the tickets?

Teens sounds like the right course of action. Once you can stop looking at whether he's online and not care even if he is, maybe after then

Anxious good luck keep us updated

Basseting I agree. Would he answer a phone call?

Teens I get what you are saying about low contact. I don't know what I'll do yet. What I do know is that even if he said all the things I want to hear I'm not in the position to act on them. I have things I need to deal with and want to do it at my own pace and for myself nor for or because of anyone else.

I know Oldbook definitely easier said than done

Oldbook you're making me feel low contact is not the way forward! I'm feeling so empowered today but am afraid I'll crash and burn next week.

NK why next week?

oldbrook stay strong!

Anxious because I think Oldbook was feeling empowered last week but not this week. I'm afraid all my doubts and anxieties will creep back in

Ah ok Sorry I understand. The fact you feel ok today after contact is a good sign Are you looking forward to going out this weekend? Are you drinking or is dry January rolling on?

basseting are you ok?

Yes Anxious I think it's a good sign that I feel grand today. In hindsight I'm beginning to wonder if I'm expecting too much of the poor bloke. He's not said anything nasty and why would he put his heart on the table when I'm not available. I know I'll be separating this year but he dooesnt know 100% that it will happen. Think I need to cut him some slack.

I have a night out Sat night and am really looking forward to it.

How are you feeling today?

Yes stay strong Oldbook. It's a gamble but me not attending that event made him contact me. Maybe your guy would be the same

Evening all.

Basseting are you sure the trip is wise. Remember the fallout from last time. Obviously you have to decide but wouldn't it be better to do something else with your free time than meet him? Come and meet one of us for coffee instead!

anxious I think you feel you need to send the message about the surgery and I can see why. I think teens' suggestion is good.

I hope everyone else is doing well she feeling more grounded now the moon thing has gone! I feel calmer and better today although dd having friend issues at school so I'm tears tonight which is hard to deal with.

Sorry to hear about your DD Itsa. Your heart would break for them when they are having friend issues.

oldbrook one target at a time eh. No contact at least until the event is a good control. If you had to choose today whether to go or not what would you decide?

itsa sorry your little one is having friend troubles. It is heart breaking. Is there a 3 group? Hope she has a better day tomorrow.

NK definitely think you not going prompted him. You have the upper hand. Are you going to wait to tell him about your upcoming separation once the process has started?

Hope everyone is feeling happier tonight now the moon is hiding itself in shame

Lol Anxious at the moon hiding itself!

He knows I'm not in a happy relationship but probably thinks I'm all talk. I won't be rushed by anyone though. I've timeframes in my own mind