You posted an almost identical thread last February that you were done with DH for doing this, you were going to leave, you stressed your anxiety. Guess what?
You're still there. The overwhelming advice on that thread was that you needed serious help with your anxiety. Have you done anything about it?
In March you admitted on another thread that you were battling depression. Have you done anything about it?
In lost of your other threads it comes over pretty clearly that your DH - apart from these very occasional late night drinking sessions - is pretty bloody good. He works, you say, 12 hour days as a chef but still does all the cooking for you. Lots of other times you speak very highly of him.
You are, I seem to recall, fairly young, with two or three young children. Although you do state that at times you leave the 3 year old in the bath while you see to a younger one - I find that odd for someone who suffers with the anxiety you do about your husband coming home later than he said.
I think from all your threads you DH is a bloody good bloke, who works very hard so provide a good home for you and your children, who has to deal with a lot because of your extreme anxiety and every now and again he needs to let off some steam with his friends. I don't think that is unreasonable. I'm not surprised he burst into tears. You have brought him to that position.
So this is at least twice you have decided to end your marriage over a relatively minor matter. Are you going to go through with it this time? Or are you finally going to seek some serious treatment for your extreme anxiety?