If your DH/DP had an affair would you like to know?

[niteandfog]

Just as simple as that. (full disclosure, I'm the OW by the way and have all the evidence). I don't think I'll ever tell her, but sometimes I feel she deserves to know.

I'd definitely want to know, without a shadow of a doubt

But your still with him ? Do you want him to leave his wife to be with you?

You've learned your lesson???

So this isn't the first time? Find some self respect .... and someone that doesn't have a wife.

I would want to know and i would not care who told me.....
How long have you been having the affair op?

He's set himself a target?

And you believe him?

Good grief.

I'd want to know. And I'd want you to tell me and end it and then never speak to me again.

She's going to hate you, but that's probably better than you hating yourself because your wasting time with a man who will never leave his wife for you.

What is your question above ......... so why would he?

You sound like you don't think much of him. He treats people this badly and you want to be with him? Do you actually value yourself at all (genuine question, not goady or sarcastic)? There are much nicer people, and much nicer ways to live your life available out there.

I thought you were going to stay aws from him for 6 months and see what happens.
you're despicable. you just want him and also to destroy the life of his wife, it's quite evident from your previous posts

previous threads should I say

Nope, I don't want to leave his wife for me. I've actually never asked him to nor never will. His words "we are both in problematic, unsatisfying marriages and this is what needs to be sorted". And what I mean with "my lesson" is about my own marriage. I would never ever wait again to be so unhappy, that passively or actively looked for something to trigger my divorce (in this case the affair). My STBXH knows everything BTW.

If he's not single by the time we have some plans, then he's out of my life.

Wasn't he meant to have left his poor sick wife by now?

Why is she jealous of you? ......you are not making this easy
to follow op

When a man ends up with his mistress the main thing he leaves behind is a vacancy. Bear that in mind.

your last thread was two months ago and you wanted him to leave if I remember correctly.
well he hasn't has he?
keep waiting love

So you are separated ?

But he is not... and this isn't his first affair?

Please don't go getting a mutual friend to do your dirty work - if you want the wife to know, do it yourself. There is no need to drag anyone else into this shitstorm.

Also, you need to be prepared for her to not believe you and for the MM to drop you like a hot potato. There's no winners here.

You wont be the only mistress now and he will not leave his family for you.

be a better example of a human being for your daughter.

Well, I'm still living with my ex, I even sometimes think of staying with my ex (I'm moving out in two weeks). A month ago, he asked for a month, 2 max (I know it feels like longer ago)... I haven't moved out so I don't have much to offer either so to speak. Now he's actually talking about a "few weeks" , so at least his original timeline makes sense. Tomorrow is the last big date he can use as an excuse for at least 6 months, so the clock is ticking for him and he knows it.

All sounds screwed up with no road to happiness OP!

Don't hold your breath.

What is happening tomorrow op?

niteandfog I think she deserves not to be cheated on.

And you deserve more niteandfog. It's sad you don't value yourself more than being with a man who does despicable things.