NC Dignity Club Part 3 - Stronger Every Day

[SweetBerries]

Here we go ladies. The place we come to do the 4 c’s - confess, console, comfort and consolidate. Every one of us is on a journey here but at the end of it, we become stronger better individuals who can be better prepared for future relationships - friends and romantically.

I’m so proud of you all xx

Ok @Itsalottery you go bright and breezy and I'll go icy calm and we'll check back in later tomorrow for a d brief. What time are you meeting your NC?

Lunchtime. You?

2pm x

Fake it till you make it ginger!
Imagine something repulsive you know about him, everytime you see his crook face.
How about the money he stole of You? Project the sum onto his forehead as if it's stumped in red!

Shame we can't meet after ginger for a debrief!

Itsa how did your meeting tomorrow come about?

I'll be on Day 19 tomorrow. That's the longest I got to the last time before I sent the accidental drunk emoji. Am looking forward to beating the previous record. There's no way I want to come back to day zero again after all the effort I've put in

Trust me @Teensandfuture I don't have tonimagine it. It's there. I just wish I knew why I feel so stupidly sad because I know none of the 'I love you's' and all tjecphony bullshit he fed me was real. Honestly it just makes me feel like I can never trust another man ever again.

Sorry on a bit of a downer x

@Itsalottery it really is. But I'll check in here tomorrow afternoon to see how you are x

nk we need to exchange stuff. I suggested leaving it somewhere but agreed to meet. I am hoping I'll have no feelings when we meet as I can't see how we could ever rekindle and I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to anyway so I'm just tormenting myself but feel like I have to do it anyway.

How can some people switch off feelings easier than others and move on emotionally so easily. I find it so hard.

Sorry Oldbook I don't think it's going to happen and being honest if he contacts you now I'd say you made other plans. The good thing is that you didnt chase him.

Hope the meeting goes okay Itsa and Ginger.

I don't know how some people move on quickly either. Wish I had that talent

Thanks nk

Sorry oldbook that this has happened. Take strength from the fact you played it your way x

Good luck with everyone meeting their NC today. I hope it gives you the closure you need. Cold and dignified is the way forward.

oldbook I wouldn’t reach out to confirm, he knows what was suggested and is now waiting for you to contact him as a power play. Maybe going NC with him again is the way forward if it leaves you feeling like this.

app you sound like you’re doing really well. Long may it continue!

Well I’ve woken up feeling like complete shit. I’m not even sure why, grieving for the future plans that now aren’t happening? The hit to my ego? Another rejection?

I don’t know why every guy I meet follows the same pattern all the time. They’re always super keen, make so much effort to see me and keep in touch and then suddenly out of nowhere they’re gone, my messages go unanswered. What am I doing to make them treat me like this or what is attracting these type of men to me. Why am I not even worth enough for them to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.
Before I met this NC guy I was licking my wounds from another who had basically treated me in the same way. Then NC came along and he was so lovely and I genuinely thought that this could be it. Then he turns around and treats me the same as the other one. It feels like a double blow.

Sorry for the pity party guys! Just needed to get that out.

Its and Ginger hope your meet ups went well?
How can some people switch off feelings easier than others and move on emotionally so easily. I find it so hard. I wish I knew the answer too!
Oldbook I agree with Jesus. Tough isn't it, given how far you've come.

I'm delighted for you Oldbook. Sounds like a lovely day out and the boundaries sound very healthy.

I'm checking in for Day 19. I'm trying to decrease my own SM usage as well as not check him.

Would love to think I could disconnect from SM but think I'm too addicted. Am delighted to reach Day 19 but also sad that he hasn't reached out. But in the back of my head I know it's the correct thing to do too. So I'm struggling with conflicting emotions. I know I won't reach out now and get back to zero, so it's a battle of wills at this stage.

Did you make any further plans to meet up Oldbook?

Ah I'm really glad it turned out well for you, @OldBook!

And I'm sending good thoughts and luck to those who are meeting their NCs today.

Will update later. About to start day 4!

All sounds positive Oldbook. It's great that you can have that friendship and it's healthy. I could never be just friends with mine. We tried that when we reconnected but there's too much past between us too many feelings on both sides.

In the future I'd love to be able to meet him at family functions without my heart skipping a beat but not sure it will ever be possible.

I just need to remind myself that I survived without him for 17yrs so I can do it again

Congrats on day 19 @NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5