NC Dignity Club Part 3 - Stronger Every Day

[SweetBerries]

Here we go ladies. The place we come to do the 4 c’s - confess, console, comfort and consolidate. Every one of us is on a journey here but at the end of it, we become stronger better individuals who can be better prepared for future relationships - friends and romantically.

I’m so proud of you all xx

How are you today Human?

Teens sounds like didn't have the guts to tell you face to face that he wasn't interested. I'd say he's better off staying blocked because he gives you mixed messages. Hope you're okay.

sounds like didn't have the guts to tell you face to face that he wasn't interested
Is that why he needed to start a kissing session and say lets try again ,when I clearly said I don't expect anything and I'm not forcing him to anything ,but it would be nice to be on speaking terms like normal people.
I actually didn't go there with any sort of expectation, imagine if we end up dtd how id feel now?
Good thing I run away home before anything could happen.

'imagine If we end up dtd how I'd feel now'

Like me. It's not good. I had no expectations. We got 'carried away'.
I said lets have low level comms like normal people.
But: nope - back to zero! Be glad you went home!

humanfemale

a negging cock - that's made me smile! thank you! how are you?

I said lets have low level comms like normal people.
I guess its not possible to be normal?
He IS bloody normal though, he's not abusive at all,never put me down in any way ,he's great to his kids and very civil to ex-wives.
I guess I'm nobody to be on the list of people he is normal to.Or maybe he never liked me in the first place,even when he said that he loves me.

I guess it is 'normal' to be a bit weak and get carried away?
Seems to be increasingly normal then to ghost?
But it is cowardly and hurtful.

Seems to be increasingly normal then to ghost?
Id prefer that .Id prefer he left me alone a year ago.Why did he have to come back in touch,stir the shit up just to discard me again.
But I guess I'm at fault too,I should have just ignored his messages a month ago,realising people never change.If he hurt me once,he'd hurt me again. It wouldn't be different second time round.

sorry Teens if I got that bit wrong.
I too now think it is rare for people to change.
Sorry you are hurting. ((()))

Sooo had a lovely day with family, just got home. Had tickets to go to a night out tonight with ex and his friends. I have no plans other than my book and my bath, maybe go and see a play by myself. I know that by 8pm I'm going to be torturing myself that he's out drunk, talking to, dancing with and kissing other women, while I'm sat at home alone. But - it doesn't matter!! Because we aren't together, he doesn't want me and I don't want someone like him. Please reassure me that I'm not a total loser...

Oh Bassetting
I guess it hurts even more because he's not an abusive wanker,he's not a bad guy -not to anyone that I know,apart from me.
He's either really and truly doesn't want a relationship or he doesn't want one with me.And it would be horrible for latter to be true and then see him getting into relationship with someone else later on,getting married (for a 3d time) and realising just that-he didn't like me enough.Not like I'm not good enough -Im so good enough,probably better then he deserves but not enough in HIS eyes

iswym BUT...
I have met a number of people over the years who manage to be nice to everyone except one person in their lives - ie they 'need' one person to let it all out on to be able to maintain Mr Nice Guy to everyone else?
but I may be talking pants in this case> sorry if so?

I have to dash to get the kids so wont be around much over later/weekend but hope to pop in for metaphorical wine and nibbles later.x.x.

You are totally not a loser, appella! You're doing brilliantly, really pushing on and dealing with the end of this relationship. He was a coward and didn't deserve the relationship he had with you.

And staying in is totally the new going out!

Right, appella

Let's order something nice to nibble and sip.
Music, open fire, big squashy sofa,

and get everyone from this thread around.

I bet we'd have SUCH a great evening. I so wish we could in RL.

(i wish I'd met one of you lot at the museum for my b'day not some numpty man) !

It's an interesting idea...

Roughly whereabouts are people? I'm East Midlands

How are everyone’s Friday evenings going? I’m home alone tonight, I’m going to have a bath, read, journal and have an early night.

Can anyone help me? I broke NC earlier today. Looking through old pictures triggered it. I feel so crap. All I keep thinking is he lied to me, didn’t want me enough to make it serious. What is wrong with me that he’d do that? I need to stop thinking like this but I’m wallowing a bit tonight. I don’t feel like I’ll ever be free from it all in my head. I wish all the memories of him would be drained out.

I'd love to meet up eith you guys. You've made this so much easier than summer 2016 when I found out he'd been cheating and stealing from me. I honestly never thought I'd make it out the other side. I was utterly broken. I felt like that last Sunday and you wonderful women have been an absolute lifeline.

I'm really dreading tomorrow because I think it's going to fuck with my head but it needs to be done. I have to put my big girl pants on and get through it and deal with whatever crops up - I'm on the West Sussex coast by the way x

Im right up at the top of the UK but can travel possibly.
Obvs we couldnt do it every Friday but I know there are MN area meets sometimes so I wondered about a themed meet???

I am currently reading an adaptation of a Robbie Burns poem in which a young wronged wife is given a rolling pin by the older ladies of the village who keep them for when 'their men' give them trouble. At one point there is a dance (Morris style) where all the women twirl around knocking their rolling pins and uttering dire threats should their men biff off to the Inn with any more floozies...

(prepares 'Team Rolling Pin' t-shirts, or if that is toooooo sad, just hands out pins at the door?

No??? Oh, go on....you know you want to.

@appella if you're a loser then so am I. Which means you're not. X

#IamSpartacus

Or we could be, you know, dignified

oooh, oooh, oooh,

#I'mDignified (I'm SO not...) but this is cheering me up in my own way

YES!!! @Basseting
#dignified

Lets 'fake it till we make it' ginger

Clanks pin and cackles....

I'm in Leeds, right in the middle of our tiny country😁

Sorry you're feeling so bad Icecream. Did he reply?

Meeting up sounds lovely but I'm in a different country so not possible for me 😓

Are you downunder NK? We could do with some sunshine - can we come to you?

No reply, I messaged my friend having a breakdown and then I deleted it. Will be waiting all evening to make sure he didn’t get a notification.

I wish I was Down Under would love sunshine myself!

Oh no Icecream. Nothing worse than the waiting game