Dh has been having an affair. He get a home in an hour. Please keep me calm.

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Found emails and a receipt for flowers. The emails are just Facebook messenger notifications so I can't read what they say but he's addressed the flowers to "my love".

I'm in with the 3 dc. I'm going to be sick.

Then don't for now.

Bide your time. You can feel 'awfully unwell' or something vague that covers the shock you are in right now if composing yourself doesn't feel possible.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Stay strong.

I took a picture of the email receipt for the flowers. My heart is literally breaking. I can't.

I agree with Annie if you can hold off and be sick with stomach flu or something while you just figure things out?

I'd say it's enough tbh. I had similar with ex, confronted and God rid.

Bastard, hope your ok OP

I need to confront him tonight. I can't hold on to this. I don't even want to look at him.

I'm so sorry for you. What a stupid man!

I'm so dreadfully sorry though, it's a horrendous feeling. You're not alone though

Can you go to bed in one of the kids rooms? Leave a note to say they weren’t feeling well so you’re staying with them?

I think i would try my best to hold off and do more digging also just to gather as much info as poss before i hit him with it less time to cover his tracks etc.
But then next time he vanishes one evening i would probably knock her door and draf him outside so im probably not the best at advice.
Stay strong op he does not deserve you and you will come out of this on top even though theres a tough time ahead xx

Try and hold fire. Better to have kids out the house for this conversation. Can someone babysit tomorrow for you? Early night with headache maybe?

Yes I don't think it'll do any good holding it in. Probably best to confront him while the kids are all in bed anyway.

depends on your house set up though as you wouldn't want the kids hearing?

How awful! Why do people do it?! Such a shitty thing to do to someone else

Deep breaths till you feel slightly calmer. Screen shot whatever you can. You don't have to do anything tonight. Go.to bed early claiming you don't feel well. Try and get him to sleep in the spare room so you have a bit of breathing space. Do you have anyone you can phone before he gets home?

Ok if you can't stay composed then don't worru. But YOU are in control of this situation, so what do you need from us? Do you need help with what to say? Or do you need us to man bash?

This must be just awful for you. Are you OK?

I need help with what to say.

And just to keep me occupied until he comes in. I feel like I can't move.

I'm so sorry, you must be in total shock. Do whatever you have to, there's no real right way to deal with this. What a bastard.

Thinking of you op.
He will probably deny it at first...but trust your instincts when you speak to him.
I hope you are ok.

I’m so sorry Op. I really am.

Don’t tell him what you know, just tell him you know about his affair and tell him to pack his bags then stay silent and watch while he spills everything in a panic. If you tell him how little you actually have as evidence, he will twist it and minimise.

Be kind to yourself x

dont confront yet. Search for more evidence. 6 years on - every time my shitty ex is foul I look at the evidence and just smile. Thank god he is gone. His OW must now know what he is really like. No wonder she is so bitchy - she got the booby prize! My DC just told me i was the best mum ever.

Hang on in there. It is worth knowing the truth.

Just say 'I know' and then stay silent , let him fill the gap.

Not even one bit ok. I've just been sick.

You poor poor thing. Keep talking. When is he due. Where has he been. How long have you been together. How old are the kids. Keep talking to us... deep breathing. You're in a state of panic. I wouldn't be able to keep it to myself either