Dumped on Boxing Day

[Annelind]

I do not like yellow gold. I never wear yellow gold jewellery. The guy I've been seeing for 6 months dumped me by Whatsapp a few minutes ago because I told him I would return to him the yellow gold jewellery he bought me for Christmas, so he could give it to someone who would appreciate it, (bought duty free at a foreign airport so no exchange possible maybe) because It's not something I would ever wear. Because I DON'T LIKE AND NEVER WEAR YELLOW GOLD!

He replied maybe the next one would , and could I post it back to him.

He's thrown me away over my not liking something that cost less than 40 quid FFS!

He is in his 50s btw, and solvent enough to afford £40 without feeling it. Nice to know my worth!

Shocked, but laughing. Thought I'd share!

That must be the thread of the day. Been with DH 36 years and god he's given me some shockers over the years but I still love him to bits. He scored 9/10 this Christmas so he can stay for another year.
Sounds like your bloke has dodged a bullet

Unbelievably rude. Dumping you was definitely the right response. I’m stunned that someone of your age (I.e. not under 12) could ever have thought it appropriate to tell someone that you didn’t like their gift and would return it so they could regift it. Unless you’re not neurotypical or you were actually trying to upset him that was totally out of order on your part.

WHY CAN'T SHE TELL HER BOYFRIEND WHO WILL POTENTIALLY BECOME HER LONG TERM LIFE PARTNER THAT SHE DOESN'T LIKE OR WEAR GOLD??

Seriously...what's the biggy?

incy no I didn't use capitals. I tried to word it nicely, but as you say, Whatsapp isn't the best place. I didn't want to lie and have him buy me something else gold down the line, I thought honesty would be better. He has a daughter who may have liked the jewellery better.

Honesty IS better - I don't know what this lot are on about? It's bizarre!

This has to be a joke right? I reckon it'll be reported and deleted soon...🤔

It is rude to tell someone you don’t like their present Pictish. However honest that may be. In the future you might say that you prefer white gold or silver to yellow gold, but you do not follow up receiving a gift with words to the equivalent of “yeah it’s tacky af, do you think I’m a teenager? I’ll post it back to you”. It’s rude!

I'll have to check Reddit about this one.

I am not sure him giving his DD jewelry he had bought for you would ever go down well but I do think I understand.
I am just not sure your message conveyed what you were trying to say and I am not sure it was the time to say it. By all means let him know you don't like yellow gold at some point (before Christmas would have been best) but not by handing back his gift.

pictish a minority of two then.

When it comes to your boyfriend buying you jewellery it's fine to say you don't wear gold. Prevents any more wasted time or money on his behalf, surely?

So instead of just saying you like it but prefer items that aren't gold you didn't even have to wear it but you basically just threw his thoughtful guesture back in his face. No wonder he broke up with you he definitely made the right decision no one wants an ungrateful selfish partner who only thinks about their own personal gains over their feelings.

Well what's done is done. He gets his jewellery back. Whatever he chooses to do with it I'll never know. I feel he will keep it ready "for the next one"

It wasn't a gain, Happy it wasn't like I asked for something else to replace it. I would have simply not had anything.

"So instead of just saying you like it but prefer items that aren't gold"

That's just saying you don't like it...albeit in a more convoluted way, but the message is the same.

"Thanks so much but I never wear gold." - I appreciate the effort you have gone to but I never wear gold.

"I like it but I prefer items that aren't gold." - I don't like it and next time I'd rather something else.

I know which I think is better.

Would you be ok if he did this to you?
You'd got something you'd really thought he'd like and then he sent you that?
I can understand you being upset though as the way he's ended it muSt really have hurt.
If you can understand why he's hurt

incy I had no idea he would ever buy me yellow gold or any fine jewellery, so the question never arose. I just thought he would know my taste by what I actually wore, which was always silver stud earrings with rough semi precious stones or craft type painted wood costume bangles, hippy stuff if you like. Not the 'bling' type of jewellery, ever. We saw each other twice a week for 6 months.

Could you apologise ( if you want to get back together that is).

I'd be ok with it so long as he wasn't actively rude.
Him: "Thanks for the scarf but I never wear red so I probably won't use it."
Mumsnet: "That's it...we're finished!"

Wtf?

Mr I honestly, truly wouldn't have a problem if it was the other way round. We have very different tastes, and if I'd got it wrong, I would happily have exchanged a gift for something he would like better.

You're Absolutely Fabulous darling.

I understand how you feel but we often get presents wrong. It happens with most people but it is the thought which counts. He bought you a jewellery, something romantic, but could have bought a frying pan instead or a hoover.

Mr no, I won't apologise and set a precedent of bowing to his personal tastes in my jewellery or anything else I like/ don't like.

Better I just leave it as is.

One I would have preferred a frying pan! he is not the romantic type. I'm thinking he bought all his Christmas gifts at the duty free, without a deal of thought as to what was suitable for me