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Dumped on Boxing Day

194 replies

Annelind · 26/12/2017 22:15

I do not like yellow gold. I never wear yellow gold jewellery. The guy I've been seeing for 6 months dumped me by Whatsapp a few minutes ago because I told him I would return to him the yellow gold jewellery he bought me for Christmas, so he could give it to someone who would appreciate it, (bought duty free at a foreign airport so no exchange possible maybe) because It's not something I would ever wear. Because I DON'T LIKE AND NEVER WEAR YELLOW GOLD!

He replied maybe the next one would , and could I post it back to him.

He's thrown me away over my not liking something that cost less than 40 quid FFS!

He is in his 50s btw, and solvent enough to afford £40 without feeling it. Nice to know my worth!

Shocked, but laughing. Thought I'd share!

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Lindy2 · 26/12/2017 22:51

He didn't dump you because you don't like gold that is gold coloured. He dumped you because you were very rude and ungrateful.

cathyclown · 26/12/2017 22:53

He is 50, so what are you 5 or something?

I am sorry OP very rude of you.

buttercup54321 · 26/12/2017 22:53

a few words spring to mind, Rude ungrateful spoilt and brat being four of them.

MrMeSeeks · 26/12/2017 22:53

Agree, he didn't dump you because you didnt like it, he dumped you because of what you said.
Can you not see how what you said may have come across ungrateful?
It was your first christmas present, he may have gotten it wrong, but he tried.

ButteredScone · 26/12/2017 22:55

This is why you are single. Sorry.

Original poster
Annelind · 26/12/2017 22:58

Yeah I suppose he did Lindy although I tried to be delicate about it. We were discussing gifts and I thought I'd bring it up before I saw him, as he may have expected me to be wearing it.
Someone else will get it now anyway, who will appreciate it.

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happymummy12345 · 26/12/2017 22:59

You are very rude and ungrateful.

BubbaLips · 26/12/2017 23:01

yabu

Original poster
Annelind · 26/12/2017 23:01

Buttered this was my first relationship for over 30 years so I may be out of practice!

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Hepzibar · 26/12/2017 23:02

Really? You sent a whatsapp message saying you were returning a Christmas gift? How rude.

Do people really do this type of thing? I have never met anyone in my 50 years who has returned a present or even said they have done such a thing.

OP, if this is actually true, you seriously need to get over yourself and find some gratitude

lostpigeon · 26/12/2017 23:02

this is deffo not real.

traceyturnblatt · 26/12/2017 23:03

I don't think this is how you thought this thread was going to go, is it OP?

ClosdesMouches · 26/12/2017 23:04
Hmm
ButteredScone · 26/12/2017 23:07

OK, I think you are right. You are out of practice and just got it a bit wrong. But some useful relationship hints and tips involve being kind and polite and easy going.

WickedLazy · 26/12/2017 23:08

Yup, what you did was incredibly rude. Haven't seen a thread on aibu so in agreement in ages.

Frith1975 · 26/12/2017 23:09

Good for him!

Jellybean85 · 26/12/2017 23:11

First relationship in 30 years?! But surely not your first social interaction? This would be rude to anyone... friends/family/bf
It was his first Christmas gift attempt, you have only been together 6 months, it wasn't offensive just not to your taste. You were very very rude

MyKingdomForBrie · 26/12/2017 23:11

I don’t think you need experience in relationships to know that it’s rude to tell someone you are going to send a present back to them because you don’t appreciate it. So unnecessarily rude!

Original poster
Annelind · 26/12/2017 23:11

closdes I wasn't thinking of how it would go tbh, I just thought I'd share. Certainly wasn't looking for a hand hold or anything (good job!)

I love MN for many reasons, and I suppose it was my 'go to' to talk about it.

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Original poster
Annelind · 26/12/2017 23:13

Sorry that should have been to tracey

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Constance17 · 26/12/2017 23:14

It's a gift!!! What did you get him?

traceyturnblatt · 26/12/2017 23:25

@Annelind I'm imagining that these aren't the sort of responses you were expecting though?

incywincybitofa · 26/12/2017 23:30

My first thought is I get why he dumped you
Re-reading your post I think I get what you were trying to say (provided you didn't actually use those capitals) but still no- there is no nice way to say that, andWhat'sAPP is probably the worst of the not so great ways to say it.
Realistically who could he give it to, his mum (nice talking point for you) his sister?
If you saw this thing going longer term you could have fudged and said yellow gold irritates your skin or the clasp broke just as you were stepping over a drain...
but I didn't like the gift you spent time choosing for me isn't the way to go for anything, relationship or not surely you know that.

Original poster
Annelind · 26/12/2017 23:35

tracey I'm surprised it got much response at all! but I thank you all for your replies and insights.

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pictish · 26/12/2017 23:38

I must be the only one who thinks you did the right thing in telling him and that he's being a precious twat to take such offence over it.
What's the point in pretending to like it? So he can buy more tasteless gold with crystals generic jewellery that you're never going to wear next time? I'd have done the same...thanks but I never wear gold.
What's so wrong about telling your boyfriend that?!