Is my cousin BU to leave his wife over this

[babyShark]

They are both Doctors, married 2 years ago. She is currently training at various hospitals so they both live in different places, see each other every weekend. No DC , not planning to have for at least 3 more years.
My cousin called me last night to say that his wife had an abortion. He is upset and thinking about divorce, his reasons,

1. She didn't tell him she was pregnant
2. Can't be with a person who doesn't involve him in such an important decision
3. Told this over the phone
4. Can't be with a person who is so cruel

5.ruined Christmas

My cousin is a paediatrician, adores children, I can see why this is a deal breaker for him. Is he BU ?

She has no legal or other right to insist on her husband being unconcerned - at no point have I suggested that.

PPs are spot on when they talk about the importance of trust in a relationship; she didn't trust him to support her, and her fears were borne out by what has happened.

No, that's not what's upset him. He's upset that she's made out that he has no right to be upset that she didn't share it with him except when she had no choice. That must have felt like a betrayal. If she'd told him beforehand he would have had a chance to get his head around it and he might have agreed that it wasn't the right time for a baby.

The OP has projected her own feelings of disapproval on to this situation, I suspect.

She didn't trust him to support her

What a great excuse for lying, or lying by omission : I had no choice because I couldn't trust you to do the right thing.

It's not an excuse. It's a reason.

When you're facing an unwanted pregnancy, you need to be able to trust those you involve to have your best interests at heart. They may not agree with your decision, but you need to know that they'll support you.

I very much get the impression that this woman didn't feel that her husband would be supportive possibly because of his interfering relatives, and I can't say I blame her.

Who knows?!

I think it is entirely possible that with the demands of training and living apart she may just not have had the emotional capacity to face discussing it with him.

Sod either of them. Personally, I think the OP is bang out of order sharing someone else's private information on here. Quite frankly it's not her place to share.

And before she starts saying that the female cousin is not on here- how the hell does she know? I never tell people I'm on here, because I value my privacy. But also, MN posts can be found through simple google searches. Let's hope she never Googles pregnant doctors. Or that she doesn't have any friends on MN.

A few years back, someone I knew shared their acrimonious split from their DH. I recognised the details immediately, even though no names were ever mentioned. Of course I never said anything, but little things can be really identifying. I'd be livid to find someone had posted my private life like this all over MN. Please, have some respect for their privacy OP.

I really don't think the OP is coming back.

She has suggested counselling, but my cousin refuses. She made her parents and my cousin meet up so they could convince him for counselling, they didn't even know about a pregnancy or abortion, they were shocked. My cousin ddnt tell anyone about anything but she made him look like a twat I front of her parents, so he said he had to. I think she made it even worse by doing so.