Two months dating - what to expect for Birthday?

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Just that - I’ve been seeing a guy for a couple of months pretty regularly - at least twice a week. We haven’t talked about being exclusive but I’m fairly confident he isn’t seeing anyone else.

It’s my birthday tomorrow. I’m seeing friends for it in the evening but am seeing him tonight. He doesn’t seem too concerned - says he has no plans made but we can go out or he will cook - should I be expecting more effort at this stage?

I’ll be staying at his so will see him in the morning eg my actual birthday.

*your friends

I have twice had birthdays a similar time into a relationship.

BF1 bought me sex toys and bath oils
BF2 wished me happy birthday (we were both away on separate pre-planned weekends)

Still with BF2 2.5 years later.....

Not sure I would expect anything, bit I'd definitely buy a decent present and dinner

I would expect a gesture of some sort at this stage especially as your seeing him tonight & staying over. It doesn’t have to cost a lot but something to mark the day. Flowers/chocs/book/dvd.

I had been seeing dp for 2 weeks when it was his birthday, he got a card, crate of lager & me! Been together 8 years now.

Shameless where’s it going to go post

I think flowers and something small .. I think dh got me flowers and four mini bottles of wine (I only really buy minis) and book.

2 months dating he will already know of you're the one or not. If he doesn't buy a romantic gift he's a next. He's not into you. He should want to clarify the relationship and 'taken you off the market' by asking for exclusivity and asking if you're seeing others.
Honestly I speak from experience here. You're setting yourself up for heartbreak if you continue to date like this

He has forgotten! He thought it was Thursday.

Has made dinner and bought champagne though...

I think dinner and champagne is good op

Ill reserve opinion until i know what he had planned for thursday.

Not. Good. Enough. One of 2 things will happen here. You'll either end up with him and he'll always take you for granted he'll string you along , get bored and break it off.
If you want to be treated like a princess don't look to this guy

That's not good op. All he should be thinking about at this stage is you. If he isn't and has forgotten your birthday it's because he's not that into you.

Thinking it was Thursday is not forgetting though!
Forgetting is forgetting.
Didn't he just mistake the date?

You celebrated with your friends on a day other than your actual birthday, do you think it's unreasonable that he made a mistake with the date? e.g. Have you spent the last 2 months telling him? I have a mental block with my own father's birthday! It's 7th or 9th

Dinner, champagne and a genuine date confusion is fine.

You're better placed than anyone on this thread to know if it's genuine.

If I expected anything I would make my expectations clear. I wouldn't expect someone to read my mind.

^This^

Don’t go setting tests, especially after only eight weeks, say what you mean and mean what you say.

The relationship is between you and him and the norms for your relationship are between you and him. The general consensus here is to expect a small gift but I personally wouldn’t, does that make me mean, uncommitted etc?

Dinner and champagne sounds lovely. Thinking it was Thursday sounds like he just got in a muddle with the days.

Dinner and champagne on not-your-birthday sounds like he is treating you nicely.

Ok - I was ready to dump him, but he is apologetic and is taking me out Thursday. He said I should have explicitly told him it was today instead of hinting? Not sure whether to see what happens later in the week...

You obviously really like him given how upset you are over this and I really don’t wish to belittle your feelings but you’ve been together a couple of months not a couple of years. Accept his apology and draw a line under it.

Christ there are some grabby and needy people on this thread!

Oh god, ready to dump him because he didn't put a fanfare out for your birthday and got the dates muddled up. Are you usually such a princess OP - it's been 2 months, you're being way too precious.

You've been seeing each other for TWO MONTHS - and you're already testing him out for marriage material. I despair.

Anyway, I thought according MN law grandiose displays of affection and expensive presents early on in a relationship is known as 'love bombing' and is a red flag?

I’m not sure if it’s really grabby or needy to expect a card? Really?

You would dump someone you barely know yet because he forgot your birthday?!! hmmm. Sounds pretty self-entitled and grabby to me. Adult birthdays are a load of bollocks in my opinion anyway.

Of course you should have told him outright instead of hinting, he barely knows you! It's not as if he's been celebrating your birthday for ten years already.