An update on my 'To top off my crap year...' thread

[October]

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i think you are spot on with what you say about him caring

silly sods, leaving too little too late

Hi dior

i have only briefly read through messages. I really feel for you its a horrid place to be when your unsure. Im not as wise as others with words but am thinking of you and wishing you all the best x

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I know exactly what you mean Dior!

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He's in a no-win situation with whatever his response is to that isn't he...

If he says you're not too fat, you're lovely etc, then he knows that will be giving you hope that there is a chance with him for the future.

If he says yes you are too fat then that will be utterly devastating and obviously very untrue as it's clear he is attracted to you...

I'm guilty of those questions all the time... where H cannot say anything because whatever he says will be wrong!

Can you send a quick follow-up e-mail and say just joking, glad we've got all that sorted and glad to have you as a friend... or something along those lines... You don't want to leave things like that do you...?

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oh sweetie, at least you know where you stand, and you can move forward.

Good luck tomorrow night, really hope you have the strength to do what you know in your heart is right xxx

You're not stupid at all! Don't say that. And you have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about - honestly! He has led you on and you responded. That is nothing to feel stupid about at all.

I don't think he even deserves your friendship

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Ah knowing he finished with his girlfriend last night makes it a bit clearer - agree it's bad timing and agree it's good that he has finally been honest with you and recognises he needs to sort himself out!

Just don't feel bad about yourself. You sounded so low before and it made me really sad. You're much better than that. You have reacted the way every other woman would have reacted when being led on by a bloke they clearly find very attractive. He's the one who should feel stupid. And he will one day... when he realises what he's missed out on because it's too late and you are happy with someone who's right for you

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Hi Dior, glad you and G are going to be just good friends. Sounds much safer that way - he sounds like a serial dater. Dp was a bit like that when we dated 18 years ago. When we split up, he said he was not planning to date anyone until he'd 'sorted himself out' - and immediately started dating an actress in the company he was working with! Plonker. It really took him 14 years and several more girls before he sorted himself out - and there's still a fair bit of sorting to do! The only really sorted bit is that he's finally sure he doesn't want any more girlfriends than me !

As for h, yes, I expect he does still care for you - but not in the way you need.

i actually think that it shows g does have some consieration for you, by the v fact he isnt using you as a springboard onto a new relationship

sounds like the first sensible thing he has said to you

I agree. So don't feel silly, hold your head up nd smile !

Sorry, am on a different computer at work, mine broke this morning & the keybord is teerible! Sorry I have to go now but should be ble to come on later or tomorrow.

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no you didnt imagine it, he's just doing the decent thing

Do you really think so Lou? You are not his biggest fan are you, so it means a lot for you to say that.

quick hijack babe - all ok for podge to join us, assuming usual place, usual time x

Have you had an email?

Plus, I can do any time on the 20th - well, within school hours. So it is whatever suits you best.

no email yet babe - you know what my email is like!

Would prefer morning if possible that day as its jessi's last day at pre-school so want to pick her up and say bye to all the staff, but it isnt essential.

Free up until 3pm