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An update on my 'To top off my crap year...' thread

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October · 17/04/2007 14:40

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Tanee58 · 07/07/2007 18:09

The nice thing was that we went to bed in brilliant sunshine and made mad passionate love like we haven't done in months !!

BadPuppy · 07/07/2007 18:24

Yes, you'd just like to be in a position to find out what his baby making skills are like!

From your posts it really does sound like the end of the road for you and H, so if that's what you want I hope the counselling helps you find a way to sort it and the sooner the better.

One life, no dress rehearsal, blah blah. Cliches (sp?) but they are true. I remember the horrible, nasty time I had unravelling my marriage but it was such a relief to finally make the split.

You sound like such a nice person just very unhappy at the moment. It will get better!

Off out into the garden now for a HUGH glass of wine and enjoy a summer's evening at last!

BadPuppy · 07/07/2007 18:29

Tannee am at how you stayed up until 7am! Also know what you mean about quality time away from dcs.

Ours are all teenagers and it seems there is forever someone moping on the sofa, playing loud music or raiding the fridge with friends.

Oh for quality time with DH. Still am now definitely going into garden for that glass of wine.

Dior · 07/07/2007 18:38

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Tanee58 · 07/07/2007 19:35

Dior, I just meant he's sort of available again - and of course you still find him attractive - he must be very cute. And his response does, I hope, remind you that YOU are cute too (I'm sure you are, you sound it, never mind h's opinion, he has 'issues').

I've just had to lie down for half an hour to catch up a little on the all nighter . We used to do it more often but with 'real life', I just can't do it and work the next day. Dp did say he misses not staying up late with me (well, he could always join me at bedtime, instead of sitting up on his own... When dd heard we'd been up all night, she said she thought we're mad old fogies - but I think even she was glad to hear that we'd talked things through as she hasn't liked having us moping about. I now feel I can face a glass of sparkly with dp in the garden, once he's packed his bags, and we're having takeaway curry later. I know it's not the end of our problems - but the main thing is, we're reminded ourselves of why we're together and why we went through all the hassle of my divorce, dd's anger at us and the awful trauma of selling our flats and buying this pretty little Victorian home.

Dior, hope you have a good evening, I do hope things work out.

Turquoise · 07/07/2007 19:49

I've not been on mn much but have been thinking about you.
It sounds like you're slowly detaching from h, the counsellor is helping with that, and G is something maybe to look forward to. Just let it take however long it takes, and take care of yourself.
Why was your friend tricking you into going to the BBQ? Does she want you to get together with G? Nice that he's making you feel better anyway.

Anniegetyourgun · 07/07/2007 22:33

I'm going to be a bit horrible I'm afraid. I can't help wondering if it's so much that G has "finished with his girlfriend" rather than that she got sick of him exchanging flirtatious texts with attractive workmates and gave him the push. I wonder how many times she took him back, how often he promised he wouldn't do it again, and how much of it she deserved.

Can't really see a man like that looking for someone to settle down with, unless by "settle" he means to make a nice comfy home for him to come back to between affairs.

mummytosteven · 07/07/2007 22:38

Dior - G is a disaster waiting to happen. Even if you could cope with a no strings sex relationship, having one with a work colleague is a bad idea on so many levels.

lou33 · 08/07/2007 10:20

no dior am not seeing him again, i havent even replied to his last text, i just be bothered

i dont feel i owe him any explanations as i dont know him that well

lou33 · 08/07/2007 10:20

can't be bothered i mean

Dior · 08/07/2007 15:58

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Dior · 08/07/2007 16:11

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Dior · 08/07/2007 18:21

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lou33 · 08/07/2007 19:48

at least you know why he is being like he is, so not falling for it

i think wrt ticking my boxes, it's more my problem than theirs, there is honestly nothing really wrong with any of them, i'm just a miserable spinster in waiting, buying up a 100 cats and smelling faintly of wee and cabbage

Dior · 08/07/2007 22:12

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lou33 · 08/07/2007 22:15

so now he is telling you how much you can have to drink?

Dior · 08/07/2007 22:54

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lou33 · 08/07/2007 23:07
Angry
Dior · 08/07/2007 23:10

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lou33 · 08/07/2007 23:31

i know, but it's still wrong

Dior · 09/07/2007 09:22

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lou33 · 09/07/2007 13:24

i felt the same with my exh

Dior · 09/07/2007 13:58

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