An update on my 'To top off my crap year...' thread

[October]

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Dior, the stress probably contributes to your dodgy tummy.

Shop mirrors eh, they're lethal. I was feeling thin yesterday, because I was in my nice skinny jeans and dark brown vest & looked thin from the front - then I saw myself sideways and honestly I looked 5 months pregnant. No wonder the guy at the station let me through the barrier onto the platform to say goodbye to dp as he wended his merry way to Norfolk. He probably thought I was carrying his baby but ah, my baby days are over.

I've decided to try to lose some pounds over the summer - which is why I had lasagne for lunch !!

Lou, 100 cats would save on the heating - they could all sleep on your bed! My two mogs slept with me last night & it was very companionable. Dp doesn't let them in the bedroom, and they took their chance .

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And by the way, G's a tosser - in all senses of the word - just take his attention as a boost for your ego.

And even fat people can be cute!!!!!

I got my cats against exh's wishes - I came home from a friend's house - her cat had just had kittens - and announced to him that we were taking two of them.

Best move I could have made. They helped dd get through the seperation and are such great company as well as ornamental. They're better than ADs for stress busting (scientifically proved . Your ds would benefit, and so would you.

In fact, get two!

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hi Dior, how are you?

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Just read on another thread that you have decided to split up? Sorry it's come to that but sure that once you are the other side you will feel so much happier. Did you go back to relate? Do you have any plans?

Hi Dior, sorry I haven't been keeping up with your situation but noticed that you are probably going to seperate on the other thread. Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. x

i've been offered another kitten but will probably turn it down as one fleabag is enough

dior you have an open invitation if you ever need to get away, i dont need any notice (as long as yuo dont expect it to be showhome standrad, ask charliecat, she saw a pic of my bedroom this morning , which i have since tidied btw), just let me know if you want to come

i know how stressful it can be, and remember when my teacher friend from colchester called and offered his place for the night when i was in the middle of it all, it was a very appreciated port in a storm

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It sounds like your H is unhappy too Dior ( having just rescan read some of this long thread after seeing your comment on other thread). Will you leaving be a real shock to him?

When are you going to tell him?

i just know how you feel thats all, and if i can help i will

Hey lou.

Dior have you decided to end things for good?

Well whatever you decide you know we are behind you 100%.

I have an empty house for the next 2 weeks as well, so if you needed to get away then you could always head 'up north' and I would be glad to see you!

Thinking of you xx

hello mhamai

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Yes Dior it will probably be the hardest thing you've ever done and I know it's hard to see into the future for you but if you have made up your mind then that is what has to be done. We are here for you and will support you. Did you go to CAB and get advice on where you stand? Things can only get better in the future and your happiness and sanity is the most important thing, life is too short to carry on being depressed and unhappy. Your ds will benefit from you being happy too.
You have my contact details, so please feel free to mail/phone any time if you'd like a chat.

Thinking of you xx

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Wow Dior, I didn't know you'd finally decided. Yes, it will be hard, and it will hit him hard (but it's been coming a long time, and he will eventually realise that). But I really think you will feel so FREE once you've told him, and once you're got out - you will really get your life back. You will be able to inhabit your own skin and be who YOU want to be, not who others expect you to be. That's what I found, and it's SO liberating. I finally felt like myself after nearly half a century of trying to be other things to other people - the perfect child, the perfect student, the perfect girlfriend, the perfect wife. It was too much, and I always felt a failure. If anyone had told me that I'd be 45 before I finally became ME, I would probably have killed myself - but I've been me for four years now, and I'm loving it .

Sorry Dior didn't get back on yesterday - don't know if you remember but I'm living with my mum at the moment. My dad has taken his wife and children away for a couple of weeks so I am 'house-sitting' and have his lovely house all to myself and ds! Bliss!
So give me a shout if you fancy a break up here!

It is going to be hard But as long as you know you're doing the right thing then things can only get better after that xx

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