Hi again, good not just to see you, October, but all the other familiar names.
Well - lots to digest! I'm so sorry you've been feeling so low - I did wonder if things were on top of you when you deleted your thread - and also whether your h had got wind of it. One of my friends was in a very similar position - she wanted to break with her h, he resisted (one of these types who insist that 'what God has put together' etc even though they were both miserable. When he hacked into her email account and read all the stuff she and her friends had written, all hell broke loose. He also found out that she was on the verge of an affair with an ex-work colleague (shades of 'G' there) which made more difficulties. She eventually divorced but is now having trouble finding someone new - seems to have a gift for picking wrong uns, sadly.
October, I do hope things improve - the others have given great advice. I think you should try to keep him going to a few more Relate sessions - though it will make things strained between you straight after - as you found - purely because stuff has come out in the session that you've not been able to share. As you noticed, he started to listen when there was a third party present. That's a positive.
And as regards 'G' - toughie - but you're doing well, so don't agonise too much (easy to say, I know).
I did laugh about you only remembering liking h because he looked good in jeans! He might have been annoyed that you didn't go for his big brain - but deep down, what man won't feel flattered to think he was seen as a sex God! (especially a Physics guy)