30 days no contact Thread no 3

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Here we go with thread no. 3

Please do read my last post 1000 on thread 2.

Starting again from tomorrow. I asked him if he wanted to go to the fecking cinema!!?? Like I'm actually lol'ing at myself at how ridiculous that was and why I did it..... I'm putting it down to I ate something dodgey and it affected my mindset

Hey Ami! I haven’t been back on fb since I discovered it all.
It was just regarding dds drop off today.
He was trying to get me to meet him halfway somewhere to collect her. I hit the roof! He has to drop her to me 2 times a month!
It was probably so he could get to her quicker anyway. He said there was no need to get shitty and that he’d help me out if I needed it. Why on earth would I want to help him right now?!!

Liza I wax reading an artilce about NC and it said that if you have children then MC (minimal contact) is the answer. As long as any contact is strictly practical and regarding your children then you can count that day. Hope this helps.

Woken up feeling terrible today. Anxious, sad and despairing.

Liza well done on avoiding FB by the way.

Thanks iris. Yeah from now on that’s how I have to be. I’m being strict on my thoughts from today as well. I’ve wallowed over that idiot enough. He can live his life, I’ll live mine.

Got my sisters father in law’s funeral today. He was a wonderful man, it’s going to be so sad.

Hi, I am struggling with this whole NC thing.

I want to message her. Had a break down on the way to work. Feel so alone.

UsedbyYou- can you message me again on Kik please so I can add you to the group. Big hugs x

dolly3012xo Can I get added to Kik too please?

Sure! Start a chat with me- dolly3012xo and I can add you in x

Thanks dolly I've sent you a message :)

Does anyone have any stories on where you have to have minimal
Contact with your ex? If you have kids etc? It just feels like even though we have that it is just prolonging the agony

Place marking, sadly I think I need to join you all. Catching up on the thread first x

Well I’m back again...I was doing so well until he messaged me on my birthday to say ‘your birthday?’. So I messaged him back and sent him a picture of something fun I was doing. No reply.
What a crock I am! That was 5 days ago.

Poor you Rhubarbginn

Someone make me feel better. Is it a pride thing? Or the feeling of rejection?

Why message someone mention your birthday briefly then not respond? What a tosser? Do they do it on purpose?

I don’t know. They are strange beings.

Happy birthday by the way

any chance of an add on kik? My counsellor advised no contact with my energy sapping ex but cant quite bring myself to do it. Even though i don't like getting his messages. I need some strength from somewhere! Name... lotsofwattsy

Sorry for my ignorance but what is kik? How do you join up? could I join too to offer support and advice (really struggling at the moment).

Day 4 of no contact. Can't as I deleted his number. I miss him. I had a dream last night and he was in it. hes not coming back but it still hurts

user It's an app on the appstore/apple store.

You download, create a username and we chat on it.

Feel free to join.

Please add me on there itsjustmarley1
For some reason i seem to be taking a step forward and then 10 steps back

Day 5 for me.

@dolly3012xo - I've just requested you on kik as I need support. I'll give my background now in a minute.

Day 5 of nc for me.

I am in a bad marriage and bumped into ex a few months ago (unexpectedly). I have thought about him frequently over the years. The connection was still there but we just chatted. The next day he messaged me and this has been going on for a few months. He expressed some regrets about letting me go at the beginning of the messaging but then it really just turned into friendly chats with some flirting going on. It was fairly obvious he wanted to meet up but I said no, not while I am married and he is in a relationship. We live quite a distance away from each other. Last weekend though we were in quite close proximity to each other (again unplanned) and he wanted me to go to him. I refused for the reasons above and there has been silence since then (from both of us).

I am on Day 5 of nc now. My dilemma is that he is part of my extended family so will see him at future family events and it is going to be so awkward. I've no doubt in my mind that last weekend was the absolute end of the texting as he wants more and I don't. But I am just wondering if I should just send a light hearted text (he won't mention anything about the texts as he sweeps everything under the carpet) and let the messaging naturally taper off then between us. I know it will taper off as I know last weekend was the turning point and I've made my decision. I just don't want huge awkwardness in the future. I feel if it naturally peters out then no egos have been hurt (his) and there will be less of a backlash.

Any advice would be great. Thanks.

How is everyone?