To those of you saying 'DH is lovely'

[BeauMirchoff]

What makes them lovely?
Only asking because my DH is not so lovely and I will soon be leaving him. I had a thread about this and how he didn't care about me.
What does your DH/DP do that makes them lovely? That makes you feel loved and respected? Give me hope that there are still good men out there! Please

alpha that's lovely!!

Dh cooks, cleans, picks me up and drops me off whenever I need, is kind and considerate. He’s not perfect though and does have a bit of a temper, as do I. We tend to row fairly regularly but it never gets nasty and we talk it out as soon as we’ve calmed down.

Mines is a pain in the arse but I love him dearly. Doesn't matter what's going on he always makes me feel like I'm the most important thing in the world to him (and now our new baby also). He makes me laugh, he look after me when I'm not well, he makes my anxiety better, can br thoughtful when he wants. Just generally the best.

DH is lovely because

• however difficult things are, we can always talk and put things right
• there is NOTHING we can not talk about. I don't have to protect him from the unsayable
• he is the most emotionally intelligent person I know
• he can also do 'man's things' like fix a car, build a house and is good with big power tools
• in bed he will indulge me in whatever fantasies I might have without really thinking of what he would like
• he knows what to do in bed
• he is my best friend and I am his
• he says he loves my intelligence. This makes me feel good about myself!

Alpha

For some reason I just love the abbreviation "Dhorse".

"My lovely horse .... running through the fields ..."

Hope your Dhorse has his fetlocks blowing in the wind now.

Mines an arse, irritates the fuck out of me, doesn’t look after himself, also sits for hours on his xbox which I don’t mind so much as I can Potter about doing my thing but he is lovely when I’m ill, will not let the kids pester me and generally take over the running off the house, always does his fair share of childcare and when the dc were younger nappy changes and night feeds.

He is understanding and supportive when it comes to my mental health although that’s took a long time tbf. He is playful and very faithful.

No he’s not perfect but we are a team even though we’re not always on the same pitch, there are far worse out there than my dp as some of my friends husbands are awful

@BeauMirchoff, this thread is so nice! Such a good idea, I'm sure it's very healthy to be reminded that there are definitely many good men out there.

I'm in the same boat as you. And I do get a bit tearful reading about all the lovely men. Because I have lived on so little for so many years now. I just didn't want to see it, I was clinging on to such ridiculously few good things in my relationship. But every time I saw other couples be nice and attentive to each other, I had to have a little cry in private, because I had none of what they had. No intimacy, no consideration, no interest. It was so bloody hard to admit to myself that I did not want to live the rest of my life being jealous of the dog because she got more cuddles and attention from STBXH than me.

I can't wait to be on my own. And I doubt that I will want any male attention for the next couple of decades. But it is nice to be reminded that there are happy marriages. I am so happy for all the posters who are in good relationships.

This breaks my heart

I was in a shitty abusive marriage for 10 years but leaving was the best thing I ever did. I had a great time being single for a good while... about 5 or 6 years but now I have DP who is properly lovely. He bought me flowers the other day for no reason. He's thoughtful, understanding, generous, gentle and kind. We support each other and bring out the best in each other. We don't take any stress out on each other. He does what needs to be done without complaint. He does a great line in cooking and neck massage (only when I need it) he puts the same amount of effort and care into the relationship as I do. He listens to me. Really properly listens. I finally know what respect and a healthy relationship looks and feels like.

Mine has hands like shovels and a massive knob. They're not the only reasons I'm mad about him (that was just a stealth boast). I'm mad about mine because he is just awesome. Funny, gentle, kind. He has spent this weekend assembling furniture for my (not his) kid's bedrooms.

So sorry to hear you're not cherished OP.

My dh is lovely in so many ways. Everyone loves him.
I'd rather be alone than with someone selfish.

LellyMcelly sorry to hear about your massive fanj