Husband cheated for second time

[harriettep123]

I’m 50 h 52 we’ve been married for 30years happily so I thought. 4 years ago he had a 3 year emotional affair with an ex school mate he reconnected with on Facebook, they later met for sex in a Travelodge. I wanted continue with the marriage and he swore it wouldn’t happen again. Guess what ? He went to a rugby game with some mates picked up a young girl in a bar and had sex in his hotel room, I found out because he was guarding his phone while we were on a mini break in Spain. When we got back I got on his phone and they’d stayed in contact sexting on WhatsApp and arranging to meet again. Obviously I went ballistic and asked him to leave , he won’t and six months later he’s still here in the spare bedroom, as he LOves ME , lol !
Also last week I got on his web history on the iPad, he’s been using porn sites, dating sites and looking at escort girls in our area and in his home town where his parent live. I’ve made an appointment with a solicitor on Monday, but pathetically I still love him. I’m in pieces on antidepressants please help me to be strong. I know what I’d say to someone in my position so why can’t I be more pro-active ?Anyone else experienced this ?

[AnyFucker]

You are both gameplaying.

Just end it. Properly.

[Cambionome]

Leave him. Seriously, leave him and move on to better things.

(I know it's easy to say, but I've just done this after more than 20 years of marriage, and I feel so much better about myself and my life).

[harriettep123]

He has received his divorce papers and now needs to seek legal advice. He’s begging me not to do this but I feel I have no choice, please tell me I’m doing the right thing , I need to move on and I think this is the only way without losing myself ?

[TempusEejit]

The right path is not necessarily the easiest. You are definitely better off without him, every time you give this pathetic man another chance to do the right thing he shits all over you. Stay strong!

[ChickenMom]

You are doing the right thing. Of course you are. It’s no good being with somebody who is seeking out sex with young girls and escorts!! You can’t live like that. You say you are fit and attractive so what will it take for him to not do that? You deserve better.

[hellsbellsmelons]

You do need to move on.
This needs to end for your own sanity.
I'm so sorry you lost your mum in the middle of this.
You know what she would want for you.
Give yourself some happiness. You deserve it!!!

[Thebluedog]

Stay strong OP. Every time you give him another chance he will see it as a clear signal that it’s ok to cheat on you, and he’ll do it again, but the time in between will become shorter as he’s more confident, each time you take him back, that you’ll forgive him again and again. You deserve so much better

[KarmaStar]

so sorry OP .
Please do not do nothing,follow your Solicitors appointment up,take his or her advice,stay strong and determined.
When he realises you are serious he will show his true colours so be prepared for a turnabout in his manner.
Get as much evidence as you can.
Dont him ruin the rest of your life.You will be happy again in the future.
Good luck

[Lizzie48]

You're definitely being very brave, OP, you can't live like that, with him disrespecting you like that. Stay strong, OP.

[SandyY2K]

You're absolutely doing the right thing. You forgave him once and he betrayed you again.

He would have cheated again and again in the hope you wouldn't find out.

You deserve better than him.